My gf is pregnant, going on about 3weeks now. She doesnt want to have the baby, but I keep assuring her I will take it, or take care of it, or do anything for it. I want to have this child, rather than an abortion. Which she wants. I would hate for a child I helped make, just vanish... it would kill me all my life wondering what it would of looked like, or grown up to be like, etc.
I think its ridiculous a woman has 100% say in whether she wants to keep a child or not. I think the man should have a say in it as well, seems he helped create the baby. Although, some would complain the woman has to carry it. 9months, I know it seems unfair, but 9months wont kill you, abortion will kill the baby. It annoys me that people get MAD at MEN for leaving the wife after a child, although a WOMAN can have an abortion an a MAN cant do anything, thats like leaving the MAN to.
Anyways, my gf punched her belly about 15times today... can it affect the baby at this early stage? Im afraid..thnx
2007-05-28 22:50:31 · 17 answers · asked by Eye_4_An_i 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Y'know, this is the third question like this in 2 days... perhaps it is time to get together and make a movement for the rights of the *father*! Death in pregnancy is a very rare thing given the technology. And babies are surviving pre-mature birth at earlier and earlier stages... showing that it *is* a baby, not just a tissue mass.
If enough fathers get together... perhaps their right would be considered, where the childs are not.
I think your baby is safe enough... one cannot punch oneself hard enough to to much damage at this stage. Self-preservation instinct, and all that. She needs councilling... Perhaps (if you know her mother and she's the type to support *you*) tou could tittle tattle to her mom. *Might* help your case.
2007-05-28 23:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by MotherBear1975 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋
She would have to hit herself VERY hard. The baby is very well protected. I'm sorry that your girlfriend doesn't want to have the child. I'm also sorry that you were born a male and so now you don't get a say in if your girlfriend has an abortion or not. It is her body, and her decision. You can tell her that you love the child and show her that you will take care of it. Maybe that will change her mind. When you first find out you're pregnant it's very scary. A man has no idea what a woman feels when she's pregnant. Not to mention her hormones could be going crazy so that could also sway her decision. Just ask her to look at all of the options and don't think about herself. She is pregnant and that child comes first. Abortion could be the right answer or maybe it's not. Please don't try and make her feel bad if she does choose abortion. It is such a difficult decision and people don't understand how much courage it takes to go through with one.
2007-05-29 01:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
The only thing punching her belly is likely to accomplish is that she will rupture her own liver or other internal organ and start bleeding internally. The fetus is very well protected.
That said, a father should have 50 percent of the decision making rights the moment the child is out of the womb (100 percent if the mother doesn't want the child and signs full rights over to the father). But while it's in her body, and she's risking her health to carry it, sorry...biology rules that you can make suggestions, but you don't have any rights. No more right than she would have to force you to get a vasectomy that you didn't want.
2007-05-29 06:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Punch Belly
2016-10-14 11:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punching your belly while pregnant is unlikely to have much effect on a baby. They have a fairly good shock absorbing system. However, someone who is in enough of a state to be punching their belly needs to be talking to someone as do you. Most areas have a community mental health system that is usually free of charge. This would be a good place for both of you to talk to someone about what you are feeling. I would recommend that type of facility over a reproductive center because so many of them have either a pro or anti abortion agenda. I think the two of you need more of a couples type of counseling before a decision is made regarding the child.
2007-05-28 23:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by oldhippypaul 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's really nice to see a man on the other side of the spectrum, but it is still her body. It absolutely repulses me that she would punch her stomach like that. I don't know how old either of you are, or what, but she seems very unstable. The baby should not be in her care ever that's for sure, however, you cannot force her to keep it. There is no law. I'd say if you can, ask her to please keep the baby but give it up for adoption. The baby right now is way too low for her punching herself in the stomach to really affect it. He/She is more likely in the pelvis and so small she'd have to know exactly where it is to hurt it. I would suggest you break up with her and not sleep with someone who cannot handle being pregnant. A side effect of sex is pregnancy, and you both I'm sure were aware of that.
2007-05-28 23:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by lastonealive@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well that is one of the most horrible things i have ever heard, having a baby is a wonderful thing, thankfully, the punching probably didnt do anything as the baby is so small right now, but you need to tell someone or something to keep her from hurting herself and the innocent little life inside her, i am 38 weeks pregnant and i couldnt imagine doing something like that, well... i respect you for being such a man about this because a lot of men would run from it, she should be happy to have someone so understanding as yourself and be thankful for what god has given her, good luck
2007-05-28 23:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Arie 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs to seek some counseling. It is alright to be scared, but she shouldn't be trying to kill the baby by punching herself. Yes, it does suck that guys don't have a say so about abortion. I have a feeling that having an abortion or trying to force a miscarriage is going to end your relationship. Just my opinion...I would also be worried that she may try to harm the baby after it's birth. I suggest she seek counseling ASAP, before she gets too far along.
2007-05-28 23:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by lex774u 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The fetus is very robust and well protected and it is actually quite hard to damage or dislodge it, especially if you are hitting yourself (it's hard to hit yourself as hard as if someone else hit you).
You and gf need to see a doctor or counsellor together to talk through all this. Have you considered adoption? At least that way your child will live and grow up although you won't have any part in rasing it.
2007-05-28 23:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Scot-Rob 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes that could cause her to have a miscarriage and or serious damage to her abdomen. i would suggest that you sit down and talk with her and people that care about her and voice your concerns for her safety and well being as well as the child's. and also voice willingness to take all the responsibility of the child and its needs and that your willing to take the child and maybe they all could help her make the choice to keep it. hope this helps GOOD LUCK
2007-05-28 23:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by rita512_2001112 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋