Guys, My GF wants to get plastic surgery...IT'S DRIVING ME INSANE!!?

Question

I don't understand why the **** she'd wanna do such a thing, she's actually considering getting plastic surgery...IN BRAZIL...she wants to get her lips injected and she keeps complaining about how fat she is!! she lost so much weight once I nearly puked at the sight of her stuck out collarbones....she did regain her womanly figure back but now she wants to get her face done?? What's wrong with her???? I think her lips are fine the way it is? it's not like she's ugly or anything...here, look at her pic:
http://geocities.com/tickledgreen/14092006.jpg
and tell me if u think she needs to get anything done because I'm confused as ****...is it coz I don't compliment her enough or something? because i really don't want to, she's used to getting compliments anyways and i don't want to make her feel like her looks are all i care about and turn her into a vain b*****!! i'm getting paranoid now, why brazil, why all the self-criticism

could she be having an affair??

actually she's 22...its the make up she puts on...

skyblue:...no, it has nothing to do with race, she's latina and proud of it.

Answer 1

omg she is so pretty she doesn't surgery at all. She might be better off seeing a shrink. She sounds like she has low self esteem.

Answer 2

She is a very attractive girl and doesn't need a thing done. You don't need to constantly give her compliments but you should sit down and tell her how you feel in a very calm way. Tell her you think she is beautiful just the way she is and maybe even think she would be less attractive if she changed herself. Tell her you are worried about why she wants to do this and really worried about the safety of going to Brazil. If that doesn't help at all, call a local plastic surgeon that has free consultations. Tell the doctor before she even knows about it that you have these concerns and would like her to hear from a doctor that she doesn't need this and shouldn't do anything until it has been thought thru for a long time and is not a reaction to low self-esteem.

Answer 3

This is my opinion so don't get offended by it - If you love her and you consider her yours then you will love her no matter what she looks like. Correct? Maybe the reason she is saying it is because you don't give her enough reassurance as a woman I would love to hear from my guy all the time that I'm beautiful etc. But if I didnt I would wonder if he wasn't attracted to me anymore. Because she's talking about it doesnt mean she's having an affair, people alot of the time aren't happy with what they look like, I personally don't and its the same with your gf, if she has her heart set on doing this there will be no way you can change her mind, just reassure her about how you feel and tell her she's beautiful the way she is, tell her you don't want her to get bigger lips of change her face, you fell in love with her, the person she is inside, you love her for her

Answer 4

She is narcissistic. That is why. It is defined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of the American Psychiatric Association, DSM-IV 301.81: http://behavenet.com/capsules/disorders/narcissisticpd.htm

There is nothing wrong with how she is or should I say as she originally was, it is just that she wants to be better. Call it a lack of good self-esteem.

Why surgery in Brazil? Because it is cheaper there, most likely. I had a friend whose mother had several plastic surgeries done in Acapulco, Mexico, just because it was cheaper there.

WHAT CONCERNS ME is that she may be receiving the services of an unqualified doctor. I would rather have a medical procedure done in the United States where I could successfully sue somebody for a botched procedure than have it done in a foreign country where I would possibly nave no ability to be compensated for a botched procedure.

Answer 5

I think she wants to have plastic surgery because she wants to please you. The first sight we like to see is a beautiful woman, but what you need to do is make her understand that to YOU she is the most beautiful angel in the whole world, right now and always will be.

If she thinks she's a bit fat then make her understand that weight can come off whenever she feels like taking it off, you both can do an enjoyable (and perhaps highly pleasurable) exercise together that would reduce both of your weight.

I would just try to concentrate on making her happy, forget all the other crap.

God blessed everyone with looks, why would you want to change what He specifically created for you.

Kregs,

Answer 6

Your gfriend has low self-esteem, but you need to know why (environment with different looking ppl, caucasian vs asians).
I think that having plastic surgery is fine, as long as it is the "one time" operation kind, meaning nose job, ear job, eye lid...once the operation is done...no need to do anything about it ever again. with opposition to: breast implants, which WILL need to be changed 5-8 years later! meaning...another operation.
As for lips...it is injection of some foreign material in your body and you can never be sure about the "safety" of the material.
As for your gfriend, you can only give her your opinion but in the end, if you truly love her, then if she does go forward with it, I hope she still has you to count on for support.
If she has the money for it, and if she feels unhappy with her looks, and she cannot "snap" out of it, then maybe it is the answer for her. She should look for a reputable doctor and spend THE money on something excellent, and not some bush doc...!!

Answer 7

hey she looks great!
if compliments all she wants why dont give it!
its a lot much easier to do than complaining about what shes planning to do maybe thats what she wants to gain ur praise to her on how beautiful she is!
u know a girl really loves to hear compliments especially on how she looks like maybe that'l saves her from having a plastic surgery, and also tell her that those attriobutes or details in her face u turned on so why change it?if she does that means she no longer loves you thats ur parting words in case she still insist of doing it!

Answer 8

I firmly believe she is either, as you have mentioned, not getting complement from those persons, like you perhaps, who influences her the most. Or, she used to get excessive and perhaps, exxagerated complements, and she's losing them now. Best way to deal is to work on making her understand that what she is doing does not change the way, you and as i have said people around her, people looks at her.

While it is true that physical attractiveness is a major factor to likeability, being liked by everyone is a very expensive and arduous goal. Being liked by people you love, is a more realistic and important one.

Answer 9

first of all, you just have to tell her that you dont want her to do things with her body. but i think you should compliment her - i dont know why this is so hard on your part. i believe your gf would take whatever you say as a good thing. turning into a vain b***** would be really weird just because you said something umm.. good to her. you see, it doesnt matter if everybody compliments her good looks. i think she very well wants to make you happy and do whatever it takes to get your approval. if you dont say what you feel, i think she'll see it as your silent approval. remember: she might be doing this for you.

Answer 10

As pretty as your gf is believe she may be even vainer. Am getting a bit tire myself of those over-puffed lips myself. She needs to be happy with what she was given instead of trying to look like someone else. This could be the start of a lifetime obsession.