How do you tell your teenage daughter that you're gay? Especially when she's just trying to figure out what her place in the world is. My daughter is just starting to think about boys and she's just started to develop physcially, I"m not sure if she's sure about her sexuallity becasue she's asked me about it a few times. I'm not sure if she's asking about herself or me?
Help!
2007-05-28 21:41:49 · 6 answers · asked by Kathryn R 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think that you owe her your honesty.
Your meant to be the one she turns to when she needs some one, you have to show her trust if she is to trust you.
I think some of your worries come from how you were brought up. Times are different and same sex relationships and homosexuality are common now days. Your daughter will probably accept you as she will more than likely have an understanding already.
Come on, you cant even turn on the tv without some gay person prancing around on set.
Bottom line is - If she is upset, it would be better you told her now rather than later. Lying for years never works.
Hope this helps x
2007-05-28 22:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You come out like you would to an adult.
The longer you wait, the harder it can be. Younger kids don't think anything of it, but the older they get, the more the preconceived notions of you get set up, like the notion that you're hetero, making the fact you're not a bigger blow.
Basically the sooner the better, she may have a weird time dealing with it now, but she may have a harder time dealing later.
Remember to be upfront and answer all her questions. Also consider going through therapy before and during the coming out process with a therapist in your area that deals with LGBT issues and especially coming out. They may also offer some added help for coming out to teens, or for your daughter.
2007-05-29 12:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetely be honest with her. There is no need to make a big deal of it, but creating an environment where it is easy to talk about all kinds of things in an honest way is a good start.
If you are having trouble getting started, maybe you could watch a movie which features lesbians in it, (in a non-sexual way) and talk about it with her then.
Good luck.
2007-05-29 06:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by ninjastarfish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her when you need to, like if you've got a date with another woman don't hide it. Also, let her know that if she has questions about her sexuality she can come to you.
2007-05-29 11:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two should sit down and have an honest talk...regardless of whether she is asking about you or her...Sex is definitely on her mind...let her know what's happening...she is probably much more resiliant than you think.
2007-05-29 04:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking you should say, "Most girls like guys when they grow up but some like other girls instead. Mommy happens to be a woman who likes other women instead of men."
2007-05-29 04:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋