2007-05-28 21:10:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I my husband and I have been together since I was only 13 years old, him 15 yrs. old. We were each others first boyfriend/girl-friend. We;ve been together for 11 years now. Have 2 kids. Here is what keeps our relationship strong.
Communication (clear communication without shouting.. making your feeling known clearly and fully)
Understanding and accepting (understanding or trying to understand and accepting)
Trust (being able to trust your mate with anything)
Forgiveness (Being able to forgive and let go)
Honesty (no secrets.. always be honest and direct about your feelings etc.)
Respect ( respect your partner -vice versa-)
Giving and taking (alot of giving, and alot of taking)
Effort (you must be willing to put effort into a relationship)
intamacy & affection (reminding each other of your love threw hugs, soft kisses, back rubs or something they enjoy)
Compromise (if you don't agree with your partner you must come to a compromise so both partys will be happy)
Desire & passion (keep the flames of love going by doing passionate things for one another)
Flirtation (You can still flirt and be sexy even after you are married, so go ahead and flirt a little with your hubby/wife)
Sincere (try to be sincere to your mates thoughts/worries/etc)
Laughter & smiles (Try to laugh with your mate as much as you can. Laughter releases stress and lowers bloord preasure and also can make a person close to one another)
Happiness (On bad days just remember what you do have *your mate* let your mate be your happiness when your days are long and grey, know they are not far away with an arm to lean on, a shoulder to cry on and hands to touch.
Sex (If the usual gets boring, add new things, toys, videos, the outdoors, candles, baths, oils, massages, positions, role play, lots of great things to add)
Thats what I personally think a relationship must need to last an eternity. It is ALOT of things that both partners must be willing to give. It takes alot of work. But it is so worth it.
2007-05-28 22:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in this "we never had a course word between us" Heck, we fight all the time. We have different opinions on everything.
I haven't the slightest idea what has kept us together all these years. While I've always walked the straight line, she's stepped to the side a few times, had a few affairs. I've taken her back, never ask her back, she's come back on her own.
We've never talked about it. Don't want to. I've never thought about doing that to her, although I've had the chance.
We've raised five good kids. We're doing O.K. her health is good, not mine. Having the chance again, and knowing what I know now, I would change it if I could but I wouldn't do it again with her unless I could change it. "nough said, married fifty years.
2007-05-28 22:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret of lifetime relationship is give & take. Ex. my husband works 12 hrs.a day while me being a housewife contribute to him by cooking the tea when he comes home, wash his working clothes & be the security guard for the house.SInce I have no income he gives me what I want being generous to me & looking after us including of course my one & only son.We agree or disagree on some topics but later on there's a compromise to end the argument.
2007-05-28 21:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by shines56 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lifetime relationship requires a lot of work. You have to compromise when you really want things your way. Sometimes you have to give and give and give until you feel like you can't give anymore and sometimes you have to take and take, but a true loving relationship is worth it all. The bad times are few and far between, but the good times are worth it all. I feel like a part of me is missing if I am not around my husband. We have been together for over 20 years. He is my counselor, my provider, my best friend, my only sex partner, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
2007-05-28 21:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by mel s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is the very core of every relationship. Love goes goes with trust, patience, compromising, communication.
And also very essential in a relationship is Passion.
The 4 things a lifetime relationship thrives on is Love, Trust Communication and Good Sex.
2007-05-28 21:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Roliranks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think their is a secret. I think it is a combination of love, lust, communication and both parties giving 110%. Each relationship is different, you just have to find that perfect balance.
2007-05-28 21:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by ryles72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more than one.
- Complete honesty, no matter what.
- Unconditional love.
- Never judge.
- Listen without reacting or defending.
- Forgiveness
- Respect for yourself and your partner.
- Loyalty
2007-05-29 02:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, patience and forgiveness in that order. I should know. I have been married to the same man for forty five years now.
2007-05-28 21:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as neither party falls out of love at the same time, then you will be together for eternity.
2007-05-28 21:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by jnnfchar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect, compromise, and actively committing to make it work (not taking jobs in different cities, making the time to be together daily, etc.).
2007-05-29 04:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋