how do you get over someone that youlove but are no longer with now?

Answer 1

when you find out tell me!!!!
but here are some things that work for me!
talk to sby else[whether for friendship or a new romance]it really helps!!
start thinking about the negative things he's done!
did you deserve the kind of treatment he gave you?
the ONLY real solution is to move on and find sby else!!nothing else will work!!
[i know what you're going through!

Answer 2

Go out with friends and join any activity, or learn a new language, that'll take your mind off of him, and also gives u a chance to meet others. Friends are very important during such times. Hope u have a friend who's a good listener

Answer 3

Oh Love, that just takes time. Sometimes lots & lots of it. But time will help deminish the pain of your grief and loss, though it may be a gradual thing. It is like a miracle, though, because one day you wake up and realize it just doesn't hurt anymore.

Good luck, Love. I know how much it can hurt.

Answer 4

the guys I thought I fell in love with are the ones I cannot even rfemember their faces or names-life goes on and there is someone out there who will love and cherish you and if you are patient and don't run ahead of Him, God will bring you two together! Been there, it happened! Our 63rd anniv. is next month.

Answer 5

booze has through history alowed many to blot out the memories and make tommorow worth waiting for

Answer 6

What helped me was to picture the worst thing about the person that he ever did or said to me everytime I started to miss him or have second thoughts. And just remind myself why we split up and why this person's not in my life. Even remembering the little things that bugged me about him helped me turn my thoughts away, Because when you only look at the good it only makes you want them more and it'll only hurt you more, than if you turn your thoughts away from it.

Otherwise if you sit and reminisce about the good memories and good things, it only hurts worse and drags it out longer. Look for new goals so atleast you have something to gain by it instead of looking at as a loss. What I did was just asked myself, what can I take away from this experience so that I am never in this position again, and in case ever I am in the same situation later, what things can I be doing for myself now to help me in my next relationship?

So every time when I'd cetch myself thinking about him and reminiscing again, I'd immediately turn my thought away from the 'good times" we had, to the other side of it that wasn't so good by remembering our worst fight, and things like that. Remembering the look he had in his eye and the sting of his words.

It also helped me to face the truth about how he really feels about "me", not just how "I" still feel about "him', Because after all, I was hurting and where was he? If he truly, and genuinely loved "me", he'd be with me. *"Behavior speaks louder than words." Those thoughts alone helped keep my mind on track.

Because if you don't do anything else with your time except think about the person you are no longer with, and it's real easy to get stuck there. Been there, done that. And what I learned, was that "you can't move on in your life when you're sitting still". Sooner or later, you reach a point where you gotta stand up, brush yourself off, hold your head up and pick up where you left off. Go back to the very things you were happy with & enjoyed, and set your mind on getting back to where you were before you knew them.

(If your hands are busy, your mind can't do two things at once. That's what they teach in classes about grief, and loss, is that staying busy is the most important thing you can do, and to just let time take care of the rest).

This doesn't mean you have to stop loving a person, because you can't just turn your feelings off, just don't dwell on them, Focus on others in your life and take good care of yourself instead. Treat yourself well. You know, fix yourself bubble baths and light candles for yourself, take yourself out to eat, dress up for yourself, and do little things to lift yourself up.

Put this energy into yourself and the lives of others you love around you. Get involved in something where you have to be accountable to others,like the gym or a club, or take an art class or something, you know, with a good friend or two that cares about "you" who won't let you fall down or let you stay down if you do. Try to surround yourself with positive people who love life.

I know for myself, it was a hard lesson for me to learn that the world didn't stop turning just because he & I weren't together. And to discover that everyone else has their own lives too. i.e. I had to learn that the whole world didn't revolve round myself and this man being together or not. Because life around you goes on.

Another thing that helped me was thinking about the story of a bird in a cage. If you love it, you will set it free, and if you love someone you'll set them free, and if it's meant to be it'll return to you. If not, it only means there's some thing better for you down the road. So don't let it discourage you. And I know you probably don't want to hear this, but the saying is really true. "It is better to have loved & lost, than to have never loved at all". Because there are some people in this world, who go their whole lives and never know love at all.

Answer 7

Get someone new. For more answers mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 8

Find someone new who is better then the old person.

Answer 9

i delete all his contact details so i wont b tempted 2 contact him & tear all our pictures 2gether

Answer 10

move forward one day at a time,& surround yourself with your best pals.