At most how many functions should be held in marriages ? Shouldn't there be only two functios conveniently ?

Question

Generally marriages have many functions but in general people do no like it convenient to have more than two functions but for prestige sake they go for many ones. s that a social evil , irrespective of religion or community ? Is there any reasonable reform is required i a poor country like India ? In Punjabi marriages the so called many MEHENDI parties look like something unnecessary things . Am I right ?

Answer 1

You are absolutely right. We belong to a poor country & waste money on marriage faction lavishly just for the sake of so called prestige & public show off. Rather I'll add to your statement by saying the marriages should be done before the Marriage officer/registrar rather then in a religious manner where we not only follow numerous ceremonies which as such have no legal validity & spent lots of money giving to priest & astrologers who are sitting & extracting money on flimsy grounds. I say only one function hosted jointly by both the bride & grooms side sharing the expense between then, with a limited gathering of only close relatives & friends is enough after the actual marriage ceremonies, followed by simple bidai or dolli of the bride without any dowry, but only her personal wears. Just see if we all follow all this how much money we'll be saving that we can use for better purposes. All this procedure I told here is not only economical, but is saves time, give total validity to such marriage as you get a proper marriage certificate from the marriage officer/registrar which you can legally use it any where in India & outside India, the question of dowry giving or taking or demand is no where, no cruelty or domestic violence concerning money demand or spending on marriage or financial burden on brides parents. Last but not the least what these people attending the marriage give you in return? Just an envelope containing few currency notes, if you calculate these they will not be even 10% you spent on feeding then in the marriage party, so why bother to collect them & waste money on them who come to eat & collect their own share being related to both bride & groom side. Give a thought to what ever I say here, this system can be used for every marriage whether in north or in south, whether in Hindus or Muslims, whether in rich or poor people of India.

Answer 2

It all depends on how much money u have. If u have more money u could be extravagant. IF u have less u could plan accordingly. In our native place first we have the engagement party, and then they announce in the church about the marriage for 3 sundays. The first two sundays its just a get togather within the families and the third sunday there is a ritual, couple of people from bride's side take the groom and vice versa. A small lunch is arranged for the pople in the respective sides. Then there is another custom is done on the day before the marriage that is they bring the brides dress and there is a dinner(it is done in the evenings).The next day is the wedding there is a mass and then its lunch. No big extravagant parties. Even a simple structure like this too have had grand weddings. Its wedding i mean there should be some celebration. But it all depends on the practical sense of the people concerned. But ones u ask for will be coming soon. When times change so do will people. In this fast paced world soon people will realise the drawbacks of grand weddings and would go for simple weddings. dont worry.

Answer 3

If I understand your question you are concerned about the many social functions associated with getting married. I had a bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, the wedding and the reception. My husband had a bachelor party. For my daughter she had an engagement party, several showers along with the rehearsal dinner, the wedding and the reception and in your country you have a similar tradition. The union of a man and a woman isn't just about that man and that woman. It is the union of families, communities and hopefully a cause for joy and celebration. I understand that financial concerns may place some constraints on the expression of that celebration and you should not spend more than you can afford; but marriage is an important life step and should be celebrate. Your family and friends want to share that joy and wish you happiness. I have friends that skipped the celebration and later wished they hadn't because they have no mementos of the most momentous moment of their lives. If you are getting married congratulations and good luck.

Answer 4

Basically marriage is just a public license to copultate and multiply

If you are talking of Wedding - then instead of mehndi or betrothal or engagement one needs to have a per-nuptial agreement signing function and then wedding!!

Answer 5

Marriage is expose to bring two people together !
then those people bring and grow from that!

Answer 6

the best thing for a marraige (assuming you using that word instead of wedding) is this:

elope. its quick & cheap. combine the honeymoon right after it.

come back home & have a party for family & friends...& thats it!

Answer 7

heyy....marriage is a time for celebrations....parties!!
so in d indian way all these functions r really good!!.....actualy functions lyk mehndi,haldi r meant for only near & dear ones!!...not for all d ppl gonna b attendin marriage!
.....& its really fun 2 attend these functions...dis is wat makes sumone's marriage an affair to remember!
.........in muslims v hav a valima too aftr d weddin.....wich IS COMPULSORY !!
.......yes all these functions really stress the bride & groom a tad too much.....but it's not gonna happen again....is it???


so try attendin sum weddings my frnd.....& hav funnn!!!!

Answer 8

no.. you are wrong.....

people who do not like all these rituals do not do it..
this is our tradition.. our indian tradition....

itz nothin that just for da sake of performing the procession for marriages we do it....
your views about this are just too wrong...