What do you think about sex, and weather it should be inside a marriage, or can they be outside a marriage? Are there any special circumstances where it is acceptable? Please tell me all about your point of view, and why you think that way. Also if you are a Christian, or believe in God, please tell me. Thanks guys.
2007-05-28 17:54:37 · 29 answers · asked by Amy P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I say outside of marriage I mean having sex with your one partner before you are married. It has nothing to do with cheating on your husband.
2007-05-28 18:05:18 · update #1
I know in Christianity, having sex before marriage is a sin. However, in my opinion, if both truly love each other and intend to get married, it is not a sin. I myself have sex with my boyfriend before marriage. I'm already married for 8 years now. Having sexual relations out of love is something beautiful, wonderful and great. But if you are having sexual out of pleasure only and not love, then it is a sin. A couple will feel very bonded by love if relationship reach sexual level. I'm also a Christian and a good girl before mariage. I'm not a party girl or a playgirl. If you feel that you are doubtful whether you and your partner will end up in mariage, then my advise to you is not to engage in sexual activity. Believe me, you will know the answer. Just be open to yourself and don't bluff your ownself.
2007-05-30 02:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once you are married it is only sex in the marriage. If one person is not enough for you then you are not ready to be married. No outside sex once you are married and definatley no special circumstances for outside sex. It clouds the lines of adultry if you do that. If you allow it once then why not twice and the wife not know about it?
As for sex before marriage (contrary to my religious beliefs) I think that it is a good idea actually. You can be totally infatuated with someone and be compatable in many areas of your life but, if the sex is not right between you 2 then in the end it will not work out. Everyone has had a relationship that was going along great until you got in bed together and it was totally out of sync and the other person just didn't understand what you needed in bed out of them. After that things started not working out so well and the relationship ended.
Just my opinion
2007-05-28 18:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by hotelmajor 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not a religious person, but I do believe in God. Sex outside of marriage? I think sex before marriage is fine. Hopefully, sex inside marriage is good. Mine is not. I have a lover outside of marriage, but no sex yet. I don't know what the big deal is concerning sex. Emotional love is the important thing.
2007-05-28 18:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex hmmm how long have you got? If you consider the rules in the Bible that chastity before marriage and monogamy within it have been utterly rejected by modern society and then you compare modern society with 19th century life, I know which I prefer. I have heard all the arguments about freedom to do what we want but that is precisely what brought about the fall of man in the first place. If you like the modern world you have your answer if not then you have your answer. Marriage is based on love. Love is not self seeking or selfish. Sex is not love and love is not sex but love can and is expressed through sex. So is rape anger lust and greed. I have said enough and yes I know God and His Son. And no I didn't believe the above when I was young and yes I wish I had.
2007-05-28 18:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Biologically, people practice serial monogamy. Marriage was just an invention for property purposes. I think, most often, sexual relationships are the best when in the confines of a loving relationship; however, some people are capable of and enjoy sex without love. I think most people try it at least once at some point in their lives (even I have), but I I found it lacking.
Sex with people you love is just better. Also, while marriage is wonderful, I don't think you need to be married to have sex. Many people don't get married for years or don't believe in it, and they live just as happy lives with the people they love.
2007-05-28 18:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Christian viewpoint is that -any- sexual intercourse outside of marriage is not in accordance with God's will. The test of whether or not a certain behavior is morally acceptable is not whether something brings a person joy, for that route inevitably leads to people doing everything their heart desires. But people don't always know whats best for themselves.
The Christian viewpoint is actually about denial of self -- taking up a cross for the benefit of others, loving other people, including your own enemies. If a person were to give up their whole life for the benefit of others, that would be perfectly Christian.
The proscription of sex outside of marriage was actually designed for man's benefit. For sexual relations between a man and a woman are so precious they are reserved specifically for the union of woman and man coming together as one person through God by the act marriage.
Thus, Christians find that any kind of sex outside of marriage cheapens the act of marriage; which was deemed by God to be precious and holy. Incidentally, this is the same reason why Christians object to same-sex couples getting married. It is not because Christians hate gays, as most people mistakenly believe -- it is because it cheapens the whole institution of marriage, an institution deemed by God to be holy. In fact, some Christians (e.g. Catholics) believe that matrimony is so holy -- it is considered one of their sacraments.
Anything else will just be a carnal act between consenting adults. It may bring extreme amounts of pleasure, sure, but the pleasure lasts only about as long as the stimulation. It is short-lived, but more importantly, it will not ultimately fulfill the human condition of emptiness; no matter how many times a person engages in it.
The true, lasting joy that God desires us to have is much more fulfilling than this. And it is found through the institution of marriage. If you ignore this, you will only be cheating yourself, for the rule was designed for your benefit.
2007-05-28 18:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyLavs 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sex is the basic need of human being. Please take a note that sex is not a crime. It is the need emerged from the thirst of hormones present in our body. It is like any other system in our body. Sex is wonderful feeling, it is not attached with body but with your soul. If your soul prefers to have sex with any desired person, please go ahead. Before marriage sex is acceptable at all levels. But after marriage, you're bound to be inside the marriage. But, if your partner doesn't cooperate in this urge, then the need arises to move outside the marriage, and this is acceptable in many cultures. Western culture acknowledges this view, but orthodox cultures like Indian denies. As a well cultured society, free sex should be allowed in and outside the marriage. Marriage should not be a barrier to this task. According to the human rights, sex is also a basic human right. In a free society sex should be freed from restriction. If two humans are willing to have as many sex activities, society should accept this. I am a christian and studied Bible. In many cases sex is allowed with daughters also in Bible. Marriage is a setup for reproduction only, and not to restrict the sexual desires. Have sex with as many as possible at an younger age but, take care with diseases. Happy sex.
2007-05-28 18:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Muthumani N 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that sex doesn't need to be only for marriage. Sex at any time whether married or not is acceptable as long as it's between two (or more) consenting adults (or even between teenagers) who respect their own bodies as well as eachother's. That means practicing safe sex and getting regular checks for sexually transmitted diseases and infections as well as being honest with his or her partner(s) and discussing the possibility of unwanted/unplanned pregnancy. It also means being aware of the person involved. Do people need love to have sex? Not exactly, but people should respect their sexual partner(s) self as well as their own emotions and attitudes.
2007-05-28 18:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In all God religions sex outside of marriage is a sin.
2007-05-28 21:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by maram 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe sex should be inside of marriages.
But it really depends if the couple could live with each other after doing it. And, if they would like to take the risk.
For example, an unmarried couple have sex and the woman gets pregnant, the male to stay beside her throughout his whole life because he is now a father.
and if one of the partners get a sexual disease then well they both have to live with it.
2007-05-28 18:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ryanxx 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋