2007-05-28 17:39:41 · 36 answers · asked by rashomon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do like I did. Run like hell and do not look back!
2007-05-28 18:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by Edward B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to once again firmly say in no uncertain terms other than "I've told you I'm Married and back off" HOW can someone LOVE you unless you two have had some kind of intimacy?? If you havn't* and you have stayed faithful with your wife, then you have a loose/crazy cannon on your hands and you need to tel your wife this person is "in love with you and you've told her you're married and to back off and she isn't"......be upfront and honest with your wife. hopefully if your wife has a few words with her......maybe she'll get the message and back off and find someone who isn't married.
I still just don't get how she can "LOVE YOU and want to be with you" knowing you're married *Did u and her ever have something together??
2007-05-28 17:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want nothing to do with this woman then you should do your part and that is to stop talking to her, stop seeing her, stop having sex with her ( if you are) and most of all stop misleading her to think that you two will be together. You had no buiness in starting this kind of chaos being married. Once you decided to get marry to the woman you said you "loved" no other outside woman should have come into the picture. I hope this gets settled before it brings unwanted pain onto you wife and/ or children. Please do the right thing for your marriage.
2007-05-28 18:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get real for one thing. You know what you should do. If she is willing to be with you eventhough you are married then she has more than likely done the same before. We all are tested from time to time it seems and it is up to us to do the right thing. Once something is done it can not be undone. Stand tall and be a real man and tell her in a way she will understand and know you are not interested or that you are a better person than that. A real man is the same person with his wife as he is without her.
2007-05-28 17:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by tami j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you need to consider what means more to u ur marriage and ur wife or this other girl
love is a serious thing and if you value her over ur vows and love for ur wife im sure u need to do the right thing and get a divorce and if thats not an option u need to break things off with the girl and do right by ur wife and marrige
i hope u make the right descion
remember happiness is where its at
so go with ur heart
2007-05-28 18:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Natalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no assertiveness You have to ask strangers what to do in such an obvious situation? You tell her to buzz off. In the long run that is the kindest thing for her. She is wasting time on you that could be spent finding a husband of her own. Remember, you gave your word to your wife that you would be faithful. Is your word no good?
Kent in SD
2007-05-28 17:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it; don't let the opportunity slip by. Just never tell her that you love her and don't let your wife find out. If your wife DOES happen to find out, play it off as though the other woman is a crazy obsessed girl, who will stop at nothing to get you---including making up the lie that the two of you are having an affair. This should work, since most women are ready to believe another woman evil than to doubt their husband's commitment to them.
2007-05-28 18:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
first your should decide on what it is you want.If you love your wife be with her and dont cheat and in the end regret your actions.but if you love this other girl and you want to be with her as well then be with her but be honest with your wife thats better then caring on an affair and wasting both hers and your time on a marriage thats bound to end.
2007-05-28 17:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you a flattered, but you love your wife and will honor your vows. Then stay away from her. It takes a real man to live with honor when in this situation.
2007-05-28 17:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no satisfactory outcome. Make up your mind. Get divorced, and then pursue a relationship with this woman. If you can't do that, patch up your marriage. Your wife is entitled to your loyalty, and if you cannot give it, she is entitled to a divorce.
2007-05-28 17:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better keep away from her & end her relationship. One should keep it in mind that if you cheat your wife & children now, one day someone will cheat you or your daughter. Marital Relationship should only be with your legally bound wife/wives not with any other females.
2007-05-28 17:53:57 · answer #11 · answered by ciman7 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋