I have been hurt badly by this behaviour of his and i have come out unglue and we have had rows cuz of this. I have begged him not to scope women out when we are having dinner, it's a special dinner for just the both of us and i am hurt, badly hurt to see him looking over the other table with women. He raises hell if i sit facing the crowd and accuses me of scoping men out but when it is him actually doing it over and over every time we are out, he defends himself saying it's normal, its a man's nature. Please, if you want to scope them out, pls do it when i am not there, he is out every night for drinks after work and i am not there and i am fine if he scopes them out. All i am asking him is not to scope them out when I am there with him.......it makes me feel that he doesn't love me & doesn't desire me, maybe i am not beautiful enough for him but he says i am beautiful and he wants only me. I am very hurt becuz of this. I am feeling inferior everytime we are out.
2007-05-28 16:37:20 · 5 answers · asked by Such is Life! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am wondering if he really loves me to where he cares for my feelings. I do not want to spend the rest of my life feeling inferior becuz of his actions. If he does it again, i told him, i will leave the dinner table & let him scope them out all he wants. I really can't deal with this. I really can't. it's my weakness.
2007-05-28 16:42:28 · update #1
His actions are pushing me away from him & i have written other men cuz i have been hurt & now he accuses me of cheating on him & not loving him. Is this a game? I do not want to write other men but i seriously can't feel his love everytime he turns the table around. I want to run away but i love him so much that it's impossible.
2007-05-28 16:54:31 · update #2
I agree with you 100% ...you've come straight out and told him Not to do it when you two are together..any other time your at the bar....knock yourself out....but pls don't when with me.....so IF he chooses tto do it again as it's his nature.....then follow through with what you said. Get up and leave * You don't need it nor deserve that....Obviously if that's his choice to continue..he has no Respect for You or Your Feelings. Move on with your life. You Deserve so much better * Keep on SMilin*~
2007-05-28 16:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh get away from this controlling, insecure creep.
You say, "Don't do that. I don't like it," but he doesn't respect your feelings at all. He is defiant saying, "I'll do it if I please." But HE won't let you have the same rights!
This is ridiculous. This is not love at all. And it certainly isn't respect. The only reason it continues is because YOU TOLERATE IT. He knows darn well you are a doormat and won't back up your words with action. And so you go round and round -- and will continue to go round and round like this forever. It will never change until you leave. You need to break off this relationship permanently. Until you do, until you believe that you deserve better and ENFORCE IT, you will never have the relationship you want.
2007-05-28 17:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't make a mountain out of a molehill. Everybody looks until they die. If that is all, you are one lucky woman. You are a woman, you know he loves you.
2007-05-28 20:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by war & peace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, this doesn't seem like a very good relationship! Sounds full of games, rather than respect.
2007-05-28 16:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what are you doing? anything? everything? are you just a jealous flirt control freak? sounds like it.
2007-05-29 02:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by love stinks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋