My best friend is married to a guy for about 5 years. He admitted that when they got married he continued to go to full service massage parlors for about a year (3 times) and thereafter he went to ones where it is not intercourse but you get a happy ending. He swears he does not want that anymore and only continued doing it after the marriage as he was stupid, immature and not ready for commitment. He actually told her everything he was not caught. She knew he had went for a massage one night about a year ago and when he came home he told her everything. I was in shock that she stayed. Do you think he really has changed? I can not understand why he went to begin with. Not ready for commitment????
2007-05-28 16:11:32 · 7 answers · asked by justa? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, he has , (betcha 10 bucks)
what they call, label a "sex addiction"
you can search it online.
Nobody wants to hear this & / or Noboby would ever do what i suggest ( which is the BEST thing to do) but here it goes........
Forget all the arguments against & walk away
Forget all the ways you can help &, walk away
Forget all the ways he can get better, & walk away
Forget about the history you have together (its all a lie anyway) & ....walk away
Forget that bs about not being in control & walk away
Forget ANYTHING that comes out of his mouth &
.....................Walk Away
(Remember an important clue, If His Lips Are Moving.....
then he is lying.....)
I sincerely doubt anyone would take this advise. We always are desperate to hold onto the illusions we have about our lives
Understand this come from someone with tooooo much experience
Good luck to your friend
2007-05-28 16:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always think Massage Parlour is just a legal way of saying Brothel, obviously the girls that work there aren't doing it through choice but through necessity, but at least they are in a warm and a safe-ish place rather than walking the streets on their own or hanging around on your street corner, having said that I wouldn't want a brothel next door for a neighbour. The men that go there are quite desperate I would think, but maybe if they couldn't go to these places they might turn to other methods to get it like forcing themselves on people.
2016-03-13 01:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry but I had to respond to this “biology” from “ radzuan”
1) your statement & they way you write is really confusing
2) are you trying to say “biology” has an influence & since men are “pleasure seekers” they therefore have a “biological” urge to seek pleasure????? & some misuse this “urge”?????
If I understood you correctly I could not disagree more!!!
justa? – DON’T LISTEN TO THAT, IT’S A COP-OUT
Under that same reasoning, you could say a true statement like : EVERYBODY has a biological need to crap “in the woods”
but since we are NOT animals but HUMAN BEINGS who have evolved…(evolved means to over come & out grow “urges” ) we hold it in until we get to a bathroom………
……ok, some of us do lol
Unless you are a CAVEMAN, you can not use that “biology” argument because if you were born in this century, by default you no longer HAVE that same “biology”
I'm getting so tired of people MIS-using biology, evolution & science for rationalizing poor behaviors or for their own personal edification
How are we ever to continue to “evolve” if people are forever weaving these webs of misdirection and confusion forcing our chance to improve to stagnate
btw-Evolved = to undergo change, develop NEW traits & different adaptive states
2007-05-31 17:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by tarki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my observation from the biology, psychology of men and women from history and until now it seems like women is a pleasure giver and men is a pleasure seeker. do men go to massage parlor where men do the massage. no i don't think so. so it is not about massage but more about who did it. did women go to massage. yes they do. are they looking for men massauer. no i don't think so. most married women i heard that they are not comfortable to be touch by other men. so does that mean women are loyal and better partner and men always bad and unloyal partner. no definitely not because we are different species. both species biological traits has its own purpose but it looks like both species use it the wrong way and take advantage of its ability whenever it benefit them.
2007-05-31 11:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by radzuan 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The answer is sexual gratification. No he has not changed and will not change. It's just like dope. The length of this marriage is questionable.
2007-05-28 16:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater Always a cheater
he wont stop
sounds like hes Obssesed
2007-05-28 16:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because is good! and since you are not getting the job done then we need someone who will. that just the way we are. Dogs!!
and he will never change!..just get used to it.
2007-05-28 16:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋