How do i get over him?

Question

How do i get over him?
How do i get over a guy that has basically treated me like I am nothig and constantly made me feel like I am crap? I know its partly my fault for allowing it. He is so cold and when ever things go wrong he switches off and I am the one calling and he can just go to sleep with out a care whilst I lie awake thinking, and he just leaves his phone off or just to ring. Now he says he wants to leave and I still find it hard to let go. Is there such a thing as karma cos it doesnt feel like it. I dont have any friends so that makes it ten times worse I feel so down help.

Answer 1

Dear Sarah, believe it or not we all (at least me) have been there at some point. Sorry this guy is braking your heart and he can't see how special you are. The good news is that, even though at this moment it may sound impossible because even breath it's hard, all this will pass and you have the power on how soon. Try to do the things you used to enjoy and you stop doing it. Try to go to the places you like to go and you stop going. See this as an opportunity to start new and fresh again. Try to keep a positive thinking and more important to tell yourself that you deserve better and he is not good for you. Trust me time will heal your feelings but you need to take care of yourself. Take your time to cry if you need to but also give yourself a better second chance to meet someone who will definitely adore everything about you. Hope this help and remember you are very special and deserve much better. PS: when you find yourself thinking of him or in the relationship, start saying to yourself: "I'm special and I deserve better" over and over again. That will take your mind out of the sadness and give you power to move on!

Answer 2

Anyone can tell you that your wrong for letting him treat you that way, and your wrong here or there. Forget everyone else. Close your eyes, and imagine yourself looking in at the relationship, as a by-stander. Now really study your past situations with him. Did you handle them right, did you handle them wrong? Or were you just being too stuburn to realize that it "just wasn't working"?
Now, a break-up is never easy no matter what the cicumstances are. And as you mentioned you have no friends which will obviously make this a tougher time for you. I know this is easier said than done, but BREAK OUT of your comfort zone. MAKE FRIENDS. Go out have fun. And the one worst thing you can possibly do right now is JUMP into another relationship. Do NOT do that.
Hope I was at least some help.

Answer 3

I've been in your position. I've been lying awake during sleepless nights just...thinking. He betrayed, lied, and killed my hopes for anything. He shut me out and left without a care. It will take time. One think you have to remember is that you aren't alone. If you want, you can go back to some of my old questions on here...I wrote many with tears rolling down my face with a broken heart. I always thought to myself, 'I won't let a guy break my heart.' but, I guess we don't have much control now, do we? I will be praying for you. The only way to get over him is by doing things that make YOU happy; such as going to the mall with a friend to flirt with guys. It makes you feel better as a person and it makes you realize that there is much better than that scum. He's an idiot, my dear. I wish you the best...<3

Answer 4

Show him that you can move on and let him go. It will be so hard at first but eventually it will get easier. Although you're going to feel lonely at first, maybe the only reason you're hanging on to him is becasue you are scared of being alone. Everything will be ok I promise, time is a great healer. Why not join a local gym and start doing some classes, its a great way to meet people and that will get you out socialising again. You can move on and you will be ok, it just takes time. But once you've reached a certain point you'll wake up i one morning and ask yourself what all the fuss was about! good luck hun x

Answer 5

I have no idea how old you are. But I know that you deserve someone better. This guy have no respect for you, your feelings and whatever you guys have. Yes there is Karma, what goes around, comes around sooner or later. You have to love yourself and take care of yourself, because no one else would. There is no easy way in dealing with a heartbreak, only time will heal the wounds. You need to keep yourself occupied. People make mistakes, we need to learn from those mistakes and be a stronger & better person. I am trying to deal with a major heartache myself. It's been 5 months, & it hasn't been easy, but each day it gets easier. If it makes you feel a little better, my boyfriend did not even have the courage to say goodbye. I am not going to sugar coat, what your going through because it felt like something inside me died when he left. I couldn't eat, I was awake for days, and I feel like crap too. But I have my friends and family that stood by me, and help me through it, I guess that made a huge difference. Now his in Chicago, trying to start his life, and I am here trying to make my life better. The sad part is, I know deep in my heart that he was my "soulmate", and our relationship would have had a happy ending. He made the biggest mistake in his life, and he will forever regret it. Same goes for you. Cheer Up !!! Life is short, so we need to make the most out of what life has to offer.

Answer 6

You need friends!!! He sounds like an *** hole, and you are better off without him!! Sure, it'll hurt for a little while but the pain won't last forever,and when it's all said and done you'll be thanking your lucky stars that he's someone elses problem and not yours! And you'll be a stronger person. Don't take that crap. Be strong, it's the best thing for your that he leaves. Now you can find a better man, someone who will respect you and treat you like you deserve to be treated. Best of Luck!

Answer 7

ohhhh the pain of breaking up and a broken heart.... well i went through the same thing and i was pregnant!!! so you see your situation could be worse, but back to the subject i found what worked for me was time. just plain time and yes time is a ***** when you just want to feel whole again and feel better. a breakup is also a loss and you will grieve and it will feel like shock the first day or two is the worst but its alright because after you get thru them keep telling yourself its ok i made it thru the first night i made it thru the first day and second and so on and im one step closer to being normal and me again. for a few days you might not eat or sleep well but thats ok because u can get thru it then the crying and sadness sets in and depression but thats ok too because you are moving on then you may get a little angry at the world or whoever or whatever you get angry at and thats fine too because you are healing, then you finally except it and you will have probably met someone else who is far more interesting and fun to be around who makes u feel good about u and walla you are happy and cured!!

Answer 8

You should stop calling him .... find some local events to go to. The majority of the time you can find something free and can make friends and get new dates that way.

Check out your local newspaper and find a couple of different events that are going on throughout the city. Go and have some fun.

Answer 9

For one im sorry your in this situation.
And im sure you have friends.....sometimes you may feel like you have no friends. I know how that feels, like your there to help them but they always seem to busy to help you.
About this getting over him thing...if he is treating you awful you need to get away from him. Get his number off your phone, dont answer his calls, and especially dont call him. basically slowly get him out of your daily life. He is feeding off the fact that he can be an *** and you still hang around, you need to get that idea wayyy out of his head. He may think he has power over you but only you have power of you. And back to getting over him, ....hes an asshole, there are plenty of guys who will respect you. Go out, meet people, live life without him ..because no one deserves to be treated like dirt.

Answer 10

im sorry you have to go through that..i am going through the same thing.and yeah its really hard expecially since i have a newborn baby involved.people say just move on and stuff like that but like i tell everyone its easier said than done you know you cant just forget about someone you love.so i just want to wish you the best of luck if you would like someone to talk to you can add me on yahoo at [e-mail].