I am friends with a girl that has no self-censor. She says whatever comes to her mind without giving thought if it can offend someone. We were hanging out yesterday and I wanted to stand in the open where guys could see us and I could flirt. She then began to tell me that I am the most "on the prowl person she had ever met" and then asked me if I had low self esteem. I told her that I was confident with my looks and liked to be seen, flirting with boys is fun. I was then pointing out a guy I have a little crush on and she said really rudely, "that is like so 12 years old". I think that is a little weird, most people just want to have fun, I have never met anyone that can't loosen up and just have fun. I think maybe she has her own issues so she has to be critical of others to make herself feel better. Do you think I should say something to her about it or ignore her until it happens again?
2007-05-28 13:44:37 · 12 answers · asked by mimi g 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's possible that your friend isn't being mean and she just happens to be more candid, more serious and less uninhibited than you. And even if you are an "on the prowl" type person, that's OK - it's YOUR personality. It sounds like you just have a personality mismatch and you two aren't best suited to being close friends. From her point of view, she may see you as acting recklessly or being more carefree, less cautios than SHE is comfortable with. You would probably both be happier with friends that are more in keeping with your personality.
Good luck. There's bound to be tons of people who would enjoy your free spirited attitude and like to be your friend.
2007-05-28 14:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by Wynnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THIS GIRL IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. As long as you can keep this in mind you will be centered in reality. I don't know why you would let someone treat you this way without saying, "F*** you Bi***! I'll kick your a**. Shut the F*** up before your mouth writes checks that your a** can't cash!" Seriously, though. Tell her to take a hike, fly a kite, or go jump in front of moving train. You don't need people like that in your life and you don't owe her any respect or friendship. Find other people that leave you alone and abandon her to her own negativity.
2007-05-28 21:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by 12th 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know any of her ex friends go and ask them if they did the same with them. You will most likely find that she is trying to be the dominant person in the friendship and has probably succeeded in the past, albeit for a short duration. If you're already catching onto her remarks as somewhat odd and malicious, I would say her tricks won't work well on you.
Try to confront her ways to her and if she denies what you say and cannot handle a decent conversation about your friendship, I would suggest breaking it off with her and finding other people who will appreciate you.
2007-05-28 21:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by hushprelude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if it bothers you that much, and you sound like it does, then you should talk to your friend and resolve the issue between the two of you. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with flirting or having crushes. I agree with you that your friend might just have some issues of her own that she's projecting onto you. Perhaps you can find another friend to go "flirting" with and do some other things with this one. Best of luck.
2007-05-28 20:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Eden S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you have to imitate her behavior by responding. Make your voice known by distancing yourself from her, especially when she puts you down. Although she may have a point to make, there are much less nasty ways of telling you how she feels, if she really feels that way. Of course she may be practicing to be the next Don Rickles or Joan Rivers and she may make a fortune later in Las Vegas as a comedienne. Ask her that before giving her the boot, just to be sure you aren't giving up a position as her straight woman.
2007-05-28 21:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is just trying to bring your self esteem down, you can like ANYONE you want to like, what ever you do, do not let her and her words get next to you, she is not a real friend!
2007-05-28 20:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by dreamgirl542 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should find another friend. this one is the Friend from Hell that is only trying to get you feeling bad about yourself. This is because of issues she has. It is very hard to be yourself around someone who thinks nothing of stepping on your feelings to make Herself feel Superior.
2007-05-28 21:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u are really not happy to be with someone like her, then the best thing to do is to avoid her
each one of us is different from one another and sometimes someone is so different that u will feel uncopmfortable being with that person, then the best thing to do is stay away
2007-05-28 20:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is the 1 with a self esteem problem, and it is expressed by her miserable attitude trying to drag u down to her emotional level
2007-05-28 20:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl sounds like she has serious problems and she is jealous. If I was you I would seriously let her go. Girls like that can get crazy and are not healthy for you.
2007-05-28 20:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by coan2007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋