Damned if you do,DAMNED if you don't?

Question

why when you leave employers do they feel it necessary to rag on you for the duration of your life,you nbo longer work for them so regardless the reason for your dismissal or self departure,the quicker you find employment,whether thru them or not the better chances you're out of their hair,just a little something I had to ponder on

Again as stated,this isn't a perfect world we live in and behind closed doors you don't know what the next person is saying that they're "not supposed" to say,whos' going to be there to turn them in,and as odd as it seems theres' still good in the worst of us so all is not a total lost just because somone wants to hold a grudge and keep you from succeeding onward with your life,by the way,do you tell every single solitary thing you've done in your life

Answer 1

How can they "rag on you"? Are you hanging out in your former job? They are not allowed legally to bad mouth you to anyone calling about your former employment. The most they can say is that you did work there. Stop hanging around for them to keep complaining at you, and find another job.

Answer 2

Always have a friend or family member pose as a prospective employer to reference check before you give out that name and number.

When you give a reference you put your reputation on the line, If a person was a bad employee you would be silly to vouch for them, after all it is you reputation you are putting on the line for somebody who was in no way beneficial to the company. it is just silly for a poor employee to expect a shining recommendation.

Answer 3

well there is a little aspect of culture called reputation.
if your employer gives you a good reference and you
turn out to be a bad employee (like you were for them)
then they have lied and their reputation is bad.
I would NEVER give a good recommendation for a bad
employee. I always tell the truth. I do not lie. I am not going to lie
and ruin my reputation for someone who was not a good
employee for me. That's why we have the system of references.
you bad behavior follows you. consequences of your
behavior. and it's not my fault. i am just telling the truth
about my experience (i would not interpret it as 'ragging' on you)