how do you respond to a co-worker who insults your integrity?

Question

this person is full of malice and spite out of fear their position might be compromised by me. i have no bad intentions and do not want to play the game. i do want the slander to stop since it's giving other people a bad impression of me.

should i confront? how?

Answer 1

Yes, sometimes confrontation is necessary. Does your company have an HR Department? Can you get someone in HR to mediate a discussion?
If not, I would take her aside (off company time, like on a break or lunch) and confront her with what you know. She will most likely deny it. Don't call her a liar, just say, "Okay, well, this is what I've heard and I want you to know that its not true."
She will probably be so embarassed and ashamed of her back-stabbing behaviour that it will stop.
Good luck!

Answer 2

You need to do a few things.
1) document. If you ever want to file a formal complaint, you will need details on what she has said. Start a journal with the date, time, witness, and what was said.
2) This person sounds like a bully. Usually people say stuff because they go for shock value. The think that if they say something really off key, you'll be so shocked you'll just stand there and look stupid. Make sure you respond. If he/she makes a comment about you, turn it around. Even if all you say is "why did you say that? Why are you calling me that?" The worst thing you can do is just stand there and take it. Speak up for yourself.
3) Call him/her on it in front of others. If you're being insulted in common areas with other people around stand up for yourself and tell them "you don't have the right to talk to me like that and I'd appreciate it if you stop it".

Most times when people are threatened they think with a attack first mentality. Don't take it, speak up and defend yourself.

Answer 3

I had a guy that bad mouthed me at work and I didn't confront it until it affected my working relationship with other employees. Then I confronted the persons false accusation by letting this persons real motives out in front of a select group, The crabby buthole could do nothing but sputter in front of these people and the others then understood why he was bad mouthing me and then would not listen to his blathering anymore. Spitefull people make a work place very difficult on everybody who works there. You may not be able to do as I did but You should not let someone mess up your relationship with your other employees. You may need to inform a superior at work that this person is harrasing you , and you want it stopped.

Answer 4

Could you speak to your boss or supervisor? Without them thinking you are trying to make yourself look better than the other person? If they already realize this is going on; this would be good for you. You wouldn't have to confront the person at all. But, by confronting her it may stir things up into something ugly. Use your best judgment. Good luck with this situation.

Answer 5

Yes, write a formal complaint ASAP. Even better get the slander on tape to file with your complaint, you can file a law suit for slander with one witness! Do it now, do not wait, get the jerk fired, maybe they will learn how to treat people by learning from their mistakes! Sue him/her, sue the company you work for if they don't solve the problem. If they fire you for complaining absolutely sue them!

Answer 6

I have the same problem and I want her out. But all I can do is ignore her and act normal when I have to have contact with her. If you have an HR department it might help to go to them.

Answer 7

Grab him when you're alone, slam the monkey up against the wall by the throat, knee him in the nuts, and simply ask,"why can't we just be friends?"

Answer 8

consider doing nothing, then do nothing
this too shall pass

Answer 9

Tell your boss hes bangin their daughter....:o)