My boyfriend claims that he doesn't look up porn anymore. He told me that he has in the past, but not often. When I asked him what kind of porn he use to look up, he became embarrassed and said "nice girl porn," whatever the heck that means! I'm a virgin and have old fashioned morals, which he loves about me. He's 21 and a virgin too.
Oh! Also, he has amazing control for a guy! Sometimes I'll buckle when we're being intimate and say, "let's just have sex," but he always talks me out of it! He knows that I truly want to wait for marriage and I would regret it.
2007-05-28 13:13:09 · 38 answers · asked by *Stargirl* 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
He sounds like a keeper---what's the damage? Your avatar looks very cranky...if he's willing to respect your wishes, I don't see that you have a problem.
2007-05-28 13:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by jake78745 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's possible to not look at porn while in a relationship, it simply isn't probable in the case of most men (especially in their early 20s). Men like to explore their sexuality, and porn aides them in doing such. By looking at porn, they can develop (visual) preferences (mostly regarding women and their looks). While it seems shallow, everyone has their own "type" that they look for, and some people take longer than others to develop a "type", if you know what I mean. If I were you, old-fashioned morals or not, I wouldn't come down too hard on him. If it's a huge issue for you, you and your boyfriend could seek counselling. Myself, I let my boyfriend look at porn as much as his heart desires. I'm not insecure about my relationship with him, so I don't mind if he watches other women engaging in sexual activity once in awhile - he isn't going to leave me for a girl in a video he's only seen once. I'd hate to push him away by dictating over what he can and cannot do. While we do work together to maintain a healthy relationship, we are our own people, and we don't try to control each other - just a little "personal experience" food for thought.
2016-05-20 01:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, girl. He does have extremely good control for himself. I can't beleive that he is 21 and still a virgin. But, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. And we both lost it to each other. It was a beautiful thing and we love each other so it makes it even more special. He did used to wathc porn early on in the relationship, but that was becasue sumtimes I woudltn have sex with him for a pretty long time. But even now, he still does watch porn. It's definitely not a everyday thing, but he'll do it once in a while when he's in the mood and I'm not around. It's better off that he watches porn and satisfies himself, then to find another girl to do it with. Right? I know there are soo many girls where they say that they breok up because their men were watching stoo much porn, but they are jsut too insecure about themselves and need to loosen up becasue it's a natural thing for guys to be curious about porn once in a while. ;)
2007-05-28 13:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by babilin1022 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's POSSIBLE to quit looking at porn while in a relationship. Is it LIKELY, however? No, not really..... especially if you two aren't having sex.
Porn and masturbation can be a part of a healthy sex life. Sometimes they're just for stress relief. As long as porn isn't an addiction or cause communication problems between a couple, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
2007-05-28 13:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I don't want to be the guy that says he's gay, so I wont, but keep an eye out for that. Now I know there are guys out there who are "nice and understanding". They do exist but they are a rare breed. Because all guys whether straight or gay think about sex all the time if they don't they are probably lying to u. So for him to be able to put off sex when it is there sends up red flags to me.
I don't know what nice girl porn is, he would have to explain that to me as well.
Lastly, is it possible not to look up porn while in a relationship. Yes, but I would not recommend it.
2007-05-28 13:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by AFL1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's possible. There are two different kinds of guys in the world. Ones who would look up porn, look at other women and are too macho. And the other ones who would not do that and who would be sensitive and look at you. Your boyfriend is probably the second one. I think the reason why he looks up porn is because he is probably committing to staying a virgin until he has found the right person or until marriage. He is definitely tempted, i bet he is. The best thing to do is to talk to him and ask him why he does it. He probably does it because he doesn't want to have sex just yet.
2007-05-28 13:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by DARIA. - JOINED MAY 2006 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL. Guys are funny way sexually frustrated creatures. Let him mature a bit. Tell him that you do not like him to watch porn.
If a guy has not have sex with a girl yet, he might be thinking that the real deal is boring if the girl is not doing all kind of loud sounds. I mean unrealistic expectations for the first time.
It could be fun if you watched porn together.
2007-05-28 13:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by BaC Helen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If hes a virgin then hes probley looking at porn out of curiosity it good help becasue when the times right hell actully might know what to do and hes just looking its not like hes out cheating it could be his way of filling a void in his sex life while saving himself for the one he loves YOU!!!!!!!
2007-05-28 13:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by bonville21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, honestly, it's POSSIBLE for a guy to NOT look up porn, but it's unlikely. I mean, unless this guy is PERFECT, chances are, he's gonna have some urges. But, keep in mind (if he does, in fact, look at pornography) it's not because he finds you unattractive or that he's not satisfied. It's just that, hey, it's fun, and most guys like it even if it isn't the classiest thing in the world.
Good luck.
2007-05-28 13:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with porn and if you have a problem with it maybe he's not the guy for you. My husband looks at it time to time just like I do and we've been married for going on 15 yrs.
If you had as good as morals as you say you do then you wouldnt be doing anything but kissing right =) good luck
2007-05-28 13:16:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
For me I have been in long term relationships and I have looked at porn it all of them. It is no reflection on the girlfriend or the state of the relationship it is just something guys do. I have even enjoyed it with some girlfriends.
2007-05-28 13:22:02 · answer #11 · answered by Xander 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋