he told me to find a way to get pregnant that he wont know about and i just looked at him weird.....he wants to have a kid but he doesnt want to come in me is that wierd and how can you get pregnant is he doesnt come in you.....he said he wont wear a condom but i dont know should i wait till he is fully ready to try his best or should i just keep tryin....and if so how????
2007-05-28 12:18:55 · 27 answers · asked by Bubble_teenie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Well unless your name is Mary and you live in Bethlehem, your gonna have to "DO IT" to have a child! Since your not, DO NOT HAVE A CHILD, YOUR NOT READY FOR ONE! GOOD LUCK with that one!
2007-05-28 12:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by PSYCHO DAISY MAE 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Call me a traditionalist but I think you should wait until you are married to have children. It is not fair to the child to be born to parents who are not committed to each other.
There is no way possible to get pregnant without sperm. So you would either have to have intercourse or be inseminated. Just the fact that you are asking these questions is a VERY strong indicator that you are not yet mature enough nor responsible enough to have children.
Your boyfriend is obviously not interested and do you really want to have a baby with a man that could care less?? Once you are pregnant he is going to walk. Let him make a commitment to you first, then you can judge whether or not he will be willing to make a commitment to your baby.
You need to wait both for the sake of your baby and for you. You want the best life possible don't you?? - Do it right. There is a reason it has been done that way since man became civilized.
2007-05-28 12:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Blazingskye5504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get pregnant without him ejaculating inside you, but it will be less likely to happen. It sounds like he's not totally ready, and if he's not, then I don't think it's a good idea, unless you want to raise a baby by yourself. How do you feel about having a baby? You didn't mention that in the question. Both partners should be ready before you start trying. Definitely talk to him about it and make sure he knows it's okay if he's not ready yet. You have time.
2007-05-28 12:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by bluehonu13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that having a baby is the last thing you need. Bringing a child into the world is a gift from God and requires alot of time and work. Maybe you two should think about doing other things together and wait to get married and have children. It is alot of responsibility and it doesn't seem like either of you have any clue as to what you may be getting your self into.
2007-05-28 12:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He told you to find a way to get pregnant?
Hun, I don't think either of you are ready for a child. He seems a bit immature to me and you never know what will happen once you do have a kid.
He might just leave you, and you'll be stuck to raise a child alone.
2007-05-28 12:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by Dear Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why don't you get married first? (95% of single couples who have a child together, split up before the child even goes to school).
Secondly, it doesn't sound like he really wants a child. If you want one, I think you should ditch this guy and find someone who does. You are not doing the child a service to create it when it isn't wanted by both parents.
2007-05-28 12:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't do it. If he is not 100% ready just wait.
Why try with your boyfriend, if you two are ready to start a family and are ready for this kind of commitment get married first!
2007-05-28 12:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont have a child with this man. He obviously doesnt really want one. Why dont you get married first. That way your child's father has less reason to up and leave. While you are at it, start with a guy who wants the same things you do.
2007-05-28 12:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like neither of you are mature enough yet to have a child. sure it may sound like a great idea now... but you would be bringing a life into this world.... one that you have to nurture and tend to.... feed, change, buy clothes for, bathe... when you have a child you have to be ready for that commitment...your life is no longer about you, but about making sure that baby is taken care of and has a good life.... try waiting a few years and have a stable home and relationship to bring a child into.
2007-05-28 15:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Stevie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I went through this with my husband we both wanted a child just acctually getting our heads around doing it for teh purpose of having a baby is so weird and he wouldn't finish in me either...
So{here is some information that is a little detailed} I would be on top and he would say get off and I wouldn't move and i'd just keep going to there was nowhere else for him to finish...
Kinda harsh but was also kinda fun we both would laugh about it and still do!
Goodluck!
Cassie xxx
2007-05-28 12:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you two aren't ready for becoming parents. There are underlying issues in the conversation that need to be worked out first. Hold off on TTC for now, and work on the underlying why's of what he's said.
2007-05-28 12:22:47 · answer #11 · answered by Snoopy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋