I'm curious: Are homosexual people born homosexual or do they "discover" they are homosexual?

Question

I mean I feel that I was born a heterosexual. I didn't "learn" to be a heterosexul (consciously speaking"

Carl Jung would say all people have equal chances of being either homosexual or heterosexual and that we simply repress certain gender roles blah blah.

Anyways, what do you think? Were you born homosexual or a heterosexual? Or did you "discover" you were either one of those?

Answer 1

Yeah...Think about it. One day someone wakes up and says to themselves: I think TODAY I'll become one of the most feared, stigmatized groups of people on the Earth! Jungian philosophy has been discounted as psycho-babble crap since the mid 70's...

Answer 2

The answer is yes, but only sometimes. Either they were born that way or something went in a different direction in their brain at some point in their development and they started being attracted to children. For any of my dearly beloved gay contacts, please don't take the following as offensive, it's not intended to be. Pedophiles, like homosexuals, are created both ways. Some are born that way, and others are products of circumstance, be it molestation in their own childhood or what have you. How do you say this is not a question of morality, and then end your question with "and therefore completely natural and not evil, according to the atheistic world view." Clearly you are saying if we agree that pedophiles are wrong, then being gay must be wrong. The difference is that being gay doesn't hurt anyone. What two consenting adults do in the privacy of their own home is none of our business. Pedophiles are predators who prey on children, and when they molest them about half the time they create another potential pedophile. While the biological workings of the two might be similar, they could also be compared with the way straight people are attracted to each other. People's brains develop different ways, and tragic developments in life can also vastly shift the way your brain works. Sadly sometimes they develop in a way that is harmful to other people. If anything, these seemingly random developments deny the existence of a perfect Creator by showing what an imperfect creation we are. If there was a God or gods out there who wanted us all to be straight, monogamous individuals, It (or they) would've made us that way instead of leaving so many variables.

Answer 3

I am putting this forth without speculating on the fact that man as a species is far above other plant and animal forms, and has the capacity to make decisions far in advance of other life forms. So just taking a real overview of things, if bodies were created in the female and male gender, they are made for reproduction. Just like any animal, such as a bear or a dog or cat or monkey. The whole idea is to have the ability in a species to reproduce. It is a way to forward the line. It is the basis of everything -- in other words, survival. So therefore it makes sense that you should be born with interest in the opposite sex, thus would continue to reproduce. Therefore you would be born as a hetersexual. So I guess you could say a homosexual "discovers" he or she is such. It is more a spiritual thing since you aren't your body, you are you, a spiritual being. You make the decisions on how and what and who you are going to be. Forget Carl Jung. He thought people were their bodies, and that messes everything up. You can never figure out anything properly.

Answer 4

Everyone was born heterosexual, unless they have genetic defects, and are born with both sex organs, or no sex organs. Either way, that's a physical phenomenon. If someone can't refrain from having sex with their own gender, then that's a behavioral problem. Just like heterosexuals who can't refrain from having sex with others after they or the others have made vows to one partner. That's a moral issue. We are each responsible for choosing the final destination of our own souls. Listen to God, or don't, the consequence of homosexuality and adultery has been demonstrated to humanity in the past and recorded for all of us. So have the consequences of disbelief. Who invented DNA? It isn't an accident. Having a choice isn't an accident either. Making the wrong choice after being warned is also not an accident. Who, besides you, is responsible for the choices you make?
If a person is born and finds themselves desiring sex with the same gender later in life, it is most likely a test for them. If they don't know that God disapproves, and then find out that He does, they should refrain from having sex altogether. Who, knowing the truth, would trade heaven for hell for all eternity, just to have brief physical pleasure in this temporary life? Otherwise, I can only assume they might be forgiven if they never know otherwise. The way things work in this short life is often a mystery, but somehow we all get warnings about what is right and what is wrong. I am simply glad this isn't one of the tests I have to face.

Answer 5

I don't know, but I believe it's different with everyone.
I do believe that their are people who are born this way and they can't help it. At the same time though, I believe that there are people who do have some problems in their life, and they think that being gay is the reason behind it. (Basically, they are looking for a quick solution for their problems) I have known people who have been gay all their life and never pretended to be anything else. But I have also known a girl who slept with tons of men, but one day, just decided that she was gay. (Now, she is cheating on her girlfriend with a man)
Really, I think it all depends on the person. But I think a true gay person, was simply born that way. I don't believe anyone can "discover" that they're gay; maybe you can be in denial about it, but you can't discover it.

Answer 6

What a question for Yahoo? curious to see the answers. I think people are already inclined to one sexual orientation due to their genes and those traits only appear when the person is mature enough to display them as with all traits. But society plays such a huge role it seems outwardly that people simply discover they are one way or the other when most likely it seems to me that they were so oriented all the while. It must be dealt with on a conscious and subconscious level.

Answer 7

My best friend, who is like my brother from another mother, is homosexual. He and I have had this discussion several times. Recently I turned 21, and to celebrate, he took me to a Drag Show in a gay bar. We met a couple of guys that so happened to sit down at our table and started chatting. Well into the conversation, one of the men asked my best friend, "So, how long have you been gay?", and my best friend replied, "Honey, I don't know about you, but I've been gay since I was born!". With this, the man blinked at him and said, "Good answer!". My best friend always says that it's impossible to wake up one day and say, "Gee, I think I'll be gay today!", and I completely agree with him. I know that many hard-core Christians out there would argue my point of view, but to them I say this: Have you ever had to hide who you truely are and what truely makes you happy to be accepted? Then one day, you realize it's better to be yourself and be happy than to please everyone else and be miserable the whole of your life. Once you've experienced that, come talk to me.

Answer 8

Many homosexuals believe they were born homosexual. Of course, that fact was not necessarily discovered until they began exploring their sexual aspects.

It is becoming increasingly common for people who believed they were heterosexual to discover latent tendencies toward the same sex later on in adulthood.

Answer 9

Homosexual people are born that way, but they do not realize it until they begin to feel an attraction towards people of the same sex. It is the same as heterosexual people. They do not feel anything towards the opposite sex until they begin to mature. Homosexual people do not chose to be homosexual. It is not something that they can change.

Answer 10

I am a heterosexual woman. I was born that way. I think that your sexual preferences are already there when you are born. I don't think people wake up one day and say, "Hey, I'm gay"
With the harassment of homosexuals, why would anyone choose to be gay? Why would they choose to be picked on? They don't, they are born that way.