I lost count of how many times she has either lost or forgot her buspass. Today I told her she has to walk. (as of the past year i have been without a vehicle. So scrounging up a ride isn't easy and today noone is around anyway. I'm thinking maybe she'll learn to remember if she has to walk. Am I out of the ballpark? BTW she's 12 years old.
2007-05-28 10:05:33 · 15 answers · asked by maev 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
the walk is approximately a 1/2 an hour walk. She's walked it with me dozens of times and yet i still feel bad.
2007-05-28 10:16:47 · update #1
Well I'm happy to share that she is home safe and sound and she said she smell my bread baking down the road. It made her feel happy. So I'm happy now. Now she is folding laundry while my bread and buns finish baking. :)
2007-05-28 10:52:28 · update #2
sadly at that age the very first thing kids lose is their brains! lol
i think as long as it is safe for her to walk home then let her. it won't hurt.
i can't tell you how many times our kids lost their keys, bus passes, mitts, hats, scarves, etc.
i used to get upset about it all and finally had enough. i told each one of them as i handed them yet another replacement item "this is the last one i am buying. if you lose this, you will either do without or pay for a new one".
of course they didn't believe mum would do that, so, they didnt care, until they lost that item and were told - "sorry i did warn you."
you wouldn't believe how quickly they started cleaning their rooms, closets, bookbags, in an effort to find the 'lost' items. and how carefully they guarded any item they had to purchase with their own money!
i know this doesn't give you any resolution, i just thought you might like to know you aren't alone!
and by the way, every one of them had to replace two or more lost items with their own funds before they figured out mum and dad meant business. all of sudden no more lost items!
good luck!
2007-05-28 10:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by gracie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think making her walk will help with her memory... Maybe she is forgetful, maybe she is not paying enough attention. Find out which one it is:
If she is forgetful, there are hundreds of books that have little exercises to help with memory issues, if you help her through this, it could be a good activity for the both of you to bond.
If she is simply careless and is not paying enough attention to things, maybe she needs to take responsability for her careless actions, so like someone suggested, make her pay out of her allowance for the bus pass, but if she doesnt have the money or doesnt want to, then make her walk to school.
Talking to her about her memory issues & allowing her to participate in finding a solution is the best way to go!
Good luck!
2007-05-28 10:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by djunkbox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is just puberty and she needs to grow out of it. I remember that I always forgot stuff at that age and I would get into trouble sometimes for it. But none of my parents ways of punishment worked. I think I just grew out of it. But having her walk is good anyway. Maybe it will at least teach her to think before she leaves the house. As long as it's not too hot or something. Good luck on your little pre teen!
2007-05-28 10:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by happymommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for girls to be like that. She will grow out of it. A walk is healthy, but it may not be safe. It's better that you get her something she will treasure to hold the bus pass, like a pretty, sparkling wallet that she will look after. Losing things is not an offence.
2007-05-28 10:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont be too hard on her. I had troublle frgetting thing so horribly when i was younger. My parents tried everything, they would get charts and lists, ground me, and yell at me, anything they could think of to get me to remember but it didnt work. Just know that she isnt INTENTIONALLY forgetting things and she feels bad enough already without you yelling at her. As frusteration as it is for the parents, think how hard it must be on the child. Also, remember shes 12, she should grow out of it...I did.
2007-05-28 11:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 00:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that next time she looses her bus pass she has to pay for a part of it and do some extra chores... i wouldnt make her walk the whole way though...just maybe have her walk part of the way but i think the extra chores and paying for part of the bus pass would be best
2007-05-28 10:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing....she probably doesn't mean to it just happens because she'd preoccupied with other things. But what you're doing isn't that bad. She might not like it but it'll show her that she needs to be more responsible
2007-05-28 10:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by My Birthday is 2/24♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far does she have to walk? If it's less than 3 miles, I think it is a good lesson.
2007-05-28 10:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a developmental skill. Help her keep up with it. Have her keep it in a designated space in a wallet or backpack. My son keeps his in a wallet and everynight we make sure it is with his books. It has really helped everybody.
2007-05-28 10:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by TAT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋