One of my friends from High School (its now ten years later) had her kids taken away from her by DHS and she called me and asked me to move to where she is so I can take custody of the kids (now she lives in Florida and I live on the other side of the US) she claims she can come up with money to get me there if I will put all my stuff in storage, etc., etc. I told her I would have to think about it b/c it's a huge decision for me.
She called me a little later and said that if I didn't come that we would no longer be friends and that I was selfish b/c I didn't care about her or her kids - which really put me off b/c I don't respond well to threats.
My problem is that I don't see how DHS will give me the kids by my moving there b/c I won't have a job yet and a stable environment - which is what I have where I am living now. I am tempted to call DHS and see if they will send the kids to me where I am living now so I can take care of them - these kids have never had a stable home.
2007-05-28 09:14:43 · 18 answers · asked by Alessa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tough situation. You need to assess your personal situation before getting involved in someone else's. I know you feel bad for the kids, but does your lifestyle allow for their care? Plus, do you want to have to deal with your "friend"? Custody is a big deal. You will be financially responsible for those kids, and you will be legally responsible if the mom does something wrong. Just don't jump into this without really thinking it through. I would suggest talking to an attorney about it. Good luck!
And by the way, your friend is being the selfish one...both by not taking care of her kids, and by expecting you to pick up the slack.
2007-05-28 09:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DHS took her Kids away for a reason.
What was it? You need to find out.
If, If, If, they were to give you the Kids
how would you take care of them?
If you worked, they would need a baby
sitter ( more money ), and do you know
people there who could do this.
They won't let her have that much
contact with them. So she will be Child
free to go do what she wants.
What does your boyfriend, or family
say about this?
Your not selfish.
She caused this to happen.
If she cleans her act up, she can get her kids back.
2007-05-28 10:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes call DHS. I think you are right. And I'm sorry any friend that needs that kind of help is in no place to be making threats like that. In my mind not a good friend.
See what DHS has to say and take it from there. If your friend doesn't like it maybe she should have thought about why DHS is taking her kids and fix that (Ya know be a good mom)
Good luck
2007-05-28 09:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by kkapustka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alessa that is so terrible. It seems that your friend must be in some sort of drug related problem. Here in Florida is almost impossible to have the kids taken from their mom, unless the mom is in drugs and abusing/neglecting the kids. I say you call and find out exactly what is going on. Department of Children and families will never give you the kids if you are just visiting Florida.
Good luck with this and I will pray for the children.
2007-05-28 09:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by klaudiasd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the straight story, calling DHS is the way to go.
You have to know that by becomming involved, you will have to deal with a woman who very quickly goes to emotional blackmail. The kids probably need your help, so make sure for their sake that you are in it for the long run- if you end up having to cut them loose, it might do more damage than good.
2007-05-28 09:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ralph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call DHS in her area, Asked them the questions to what you need to know that will help her and you explain the situation in what she or you can do to help get them back. It isn't as simple as she is making it sound to you, if she cared about your friendship she wouldn't need to threaten you to do what she herself can't get done. I wouldn't just up and leave what is already stable for you that isn't for her. How can she have her children back if neither one of you are stable enough. So call them and get results so you don't put yourself in a worse situation.
2007-05-28 09:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by underrapps1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend has no right to burden you with her own responsibilities. and to give you an ultimatum on the friendship with selfish reasons? doesn't sound like a friend to me.
if you want to help the kids out of the goodness of your altruistic heart. do it. take precaution and YES, call the DHS to get all the information you need.
do it for the kids; don't do it for your so-called friend.
2007-05-28 09:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by juanLee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to sound mean but she's had her kids taken from her is she really a good person???
does she derserve her kids back in the future? and most important why have her kids been taken from her??
she threatend you so id tell her to boot off she should be able to look after her own kids. dont give up what your got if its good great kick her to the curb and let some1 else do her dirty work like her parents or a closer firend shes just using you.cheers.
2007-05-28 09:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by pooket2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is selfish. I feel for those kids. I agree DHS won't give you custody.
2007-05-28 09:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow- she's either a psycho or really desperate to stay near her kids. I would call the DHS and explain your concerns. seems a little inappropriate
2007-05-28 09:17:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋