If a child hates her father, lies, doesnt do her school work, and has no goals in life despite the fact that she has both the knowledge and money to do so what is wrong with her??? Why does she not want to live with her mother or someone else?? Is somthing wrong with her?Or did she just change over the proses of 6 yrs of living with sum1 else like that? Is 14 going on 15 to old for her to change?? What can be done???!!!!
2007-05-28 07:43:45 · 10 answers · asked by ~~*Skadi*~~ 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The child in questions is brilliant, she doesnt have any friends that are obvius but a few aquaintances that she excepts. Its obvious that to her everyone hates her, and as for the situation with her mother or another relative, her mother was the one she lived with for the 6 years that made her this way. But why she wants to live with noone else is also confusing.
2007-05-28 08:41:29 · update #1
The girl has been drug tested on several ocasions all tests showing up negitive, as for those few aquaintences she excepts, they are some of my top students. She has refused help from myself, the school counsuler and from what I understand she never says anything refering to herself when her father takes her to a physchiatrist. The girl is religius but doesnt fallow the doctrine of her religion, just more proof of her lack of commitment.
2007-05-28 09:27:37 · update #2
Anyone can change, at any age. The trick being, the person needs to want to change.
Is it possible she is drinking, drugging, etc.--and that is the cause of her "I don't give a crap" attitude?
Could she have been molested, raped, abused? That could also be a reason for that attitude.
If knowledge and money have always come to her easily, she may just be sick of working--bored--goals the furthest thing from her mind.
If she has a good reason to hate her dad, that's one thing--and she should consider living with her mom or another relative. However, if she just hates her dad because he sets rules for her--she needs to get off her butt and start following them--they are for her future--not his.
If all else fails, she should see a doctor or counselor--she needs a little push in the right direction, obviously.
2007-05-28 07:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she needs some direction, confidence and goals in her life. She's still very young and impressionable at this age and will change a lot in the next few years. Now is the time to help her change. Look at who her friends are also. Many times at that age they may get involved with the wrong group of people and be feeling peer pressure. It may also have to do with the parents if they are divorced.Talk to her and try to get to the core of the problem. If things continue, seek counseling. It's never too late to change directions in life.
2007-05-28 08:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No age is too old to change. She's only a young teenager, she just needs help. People aren't born with hate. She probably has had a tough time in her life, fear, confusion, etc. The teenage years are rough to begin with, and if this girl lacks stability in her life, of course she's going to be angry. Don't look down on her. Nothing is wrong with her, she just needs some counseling, professional or otherwise.
2007-05-28 07:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was physically abusive towards her it's normal. To feel anger and resentment. Now what I can't understand is why if you hate him you don't want to live else ware? What could be done is. If you get along better with your mother ask to live with her. Also, if anyone is causing you harm. Like hitting or sexually abusing you. Report them. Dial 911 call the police. If you are being hurt. It is the fault of the one hurting you. Not yours. Don't feel ashamed or embarrassed about seeking help for yourself. As a person you have every right to want to help yourself and not tolerate abuse.
2007-05-28 08:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to be left alone, do it. she has issues (obviousely) and until she's ready for help, your not going to get far, and neither is anyone else. if you push this issue, and i know your concerned, that could push her away from everything even more. besides, if she is a one of those people who don't care, i believe their called sociopaths, then there is not going to be a way for you to make a change in this girl, it's going to be beyond your power.
2007-05-28 10:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mastershake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all I think this child is a spoiled little brat, And yes 14 going on 15 is too much, When i was 14 I was out playing basketball or i was busy helping my parents with there business, I never hated my Father or I did not lie, But If that childs father gave this girl everything she wanted, Well then she is headed for trouble, because thats were Teens Get really smart and they think they can get away with it
2007-05-28 08:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is just the "attitude" ups and downs teenagers go through. Psychological counseling can help her sort her confusion out.
2007-05-28 08:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by 'llysa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off you need to find out what CAUSED this abrupt change, perhaps something happened. I would suggest seeking therapeutic intervention. and DO NOT give me a thumbs down because I suggested therapy pple.
2007-05-28 09:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to a psychologist you can repair this .
2007-05-28 07:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
psychologist
2007-05-28 08:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by iball 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋