hwo does it begin
2007-05-28 04:53:39 · 7 answers · asked by hairy armpits 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think it begins with the repeated message in childhood that you are worth nothing unless you are (blank). You do not matter unless you do...
2007-05-28 05:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The modern psychological view, which I don't know whether I agree with, is that you are born with a temperament like introversion and extroversion that is hard if not impossible to change. I assume by your categorization of people as "pushovers" and "doormats" that you are probably an extreme extrovert, a bully. To that viewpoint I would have to answer that some people are just nice people. Try to accept people as THEY are not as YOU are.
For more detail on "temperament" type that word into Yahoo! search and a number of links will come up one of which is wikipedia, a good summary.
Good luck, good mental health, peace and love!
2007-05-28 12:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's condiotioning. It lies in the subconscious. People tend to live up to others' expectations like when we hear others say that we are understanding, we tend to act on that line. Though we are not comfortable or feel abused, we try to act to be "understanding". We wouldn't want to disappoint others. Of course, this is not conscious. Another thing is,ever heard of "lies continuously said gains the respectability of truth"? Ex. If we constantly tell a smart child that he is stupid, time will come that he would act stupid. That's why psychologists recommend affirmation. Like when you're down, you go face the mirror and say many times with conviction "I feel great, I am happy!" Surprisingly, you would eventually feel uplifted, if not really happy.
2007-05-28 12:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by beth_dyosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would disagree with most people...it takes a very strong person to consistently be abused by other and still move on...usually it begins in childhood and how the person is perceived in their own family...teaching/modifying behavior is the strongest way to get people to change...assimilate...sometimes the person is only whole if they are being abused because that is all they know as their role...others are unwilling participants who just don't realize they are perpetuating the abuse by things they do or allow to be done to them
2007-05-28 14:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It begins with how they are treated in the family and later on in school. Some people are weaker or more placid than others - you can't have everyone being strong and bossy or we will all be at war.
2007-05-28 12:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Keira 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every person is different
some just let people walk over them for a Quiet life
but some are pushed around because they have been bullied and stay being bullied
Respect
shaz
2007-05-28 12:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the weak willed, may start from been bullied when very young.
2007-05-28 11:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋