I was having a conversation with a muslim man who said that in Islam they are allowed to have more than one wife. He said that Islam acknowledges that a man will sometimes look for another woman when he is with another, so if he has one women, he permitted to look for another, as long has he has the intentions of finally making the other woman his wife.
(I think that is what he was trying to say.....but I may be wrong lol)
He said that it is not the same for women, because it is in a mans nature. Look at the animal kingdom...One lion will have many mates,but the Lioness will always stick with a powerful male. We too are animals.
I don't want answers talking about opression...all I wanna know is that from your point of view is it in a mans nature not be monogamous, is part of his instint. Or is he meant to be monogamous, is it something he has learnt or is that instint. Let me know ta
2007-05-28 04:50:49 · 13 answers · asked by Darkchild 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
the idea that men are naturally polygamous makes perfect sense:
back when survival was the key thing for humanity, one of the most important steps in that survival was to ensure the continuation of the human race. Obviously, at that time, surviving until adulthood was a hit or miss proposition; you couldn't guarantee any of your children would make it. So you had to have as many kids as possible with as varied a gene pool as possible just to make sure some would make it. In other words, natural selection.
To that end, no amount of civilization/culture/society can take away our hardwired evolutionary instinct to make sure our genes are passed on, so we still want to be polygamous to ensure that it happens. Culture has made us monogamous and medicine has made it so we don't need 30 kids anymore, but the instinct remains.
2007-05-28 05:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by hulidoshi 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it's a pre-requisite for a man to be unfaithful, in as much as it's not genetically ingrained into the y chromosome, hence they can't help it.
I do think, however, that the fact that biologically they literally haven't got enough blood to use both their brain and todger at the same time plays a part, lol.
No, seriously though, men are no more pre-programmed to cheat than women are.
If you want to cheat, be you male or female, you will and all the excuses in the world won't change the fact that they're just that-excuses!
2007-05-28 12:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the same way the christian bible has been watered down & had bits added, the koran has fallen victim to the same thing.
as there's no reason other than greed for a man to want more than one wife. ( why would any man want more than one mother-in-law? they must be mad! )
in the past women in muslim countries often out-numbered men.
the men saw a benefit they could play on.
an arab friend explained to me, the first wife was normally married for status, the second for money & the last for love.
then they just got plain greedy & wanted even more wives, as a statement of wealth.
when nowhere in the koran does it state a man will have more than one wife.
a man can remain faithful but i suppose only if they want too!
many animals of the world do indeed mate for life, so why humans have to be different, is beyond me.
2007-05-28 12:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1.- lionesses hunt for food, lions don't, if a lioness had to feed two or three males she would surely starve, lions live in African Savannah an we live in social systems were food can be achieved by both man or woman.
2.- if we think of ancient civilizations (nearer to our animal selves) and pretty earlier before we were "contaminated" with culture and complex social structures, the majority of them were matriarchal, and I doubt that "exclusive male polygamy" existed...
3.-wolves are monogamous and they are also pretty cool
2007-05-28 12:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by nublao 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When men say that it's just an excuse for why it's okay for them to be unfaithful and not for a woman to be unfaithful. Personally I think both men and women have got issues with monogamy, they both cheat on each other in relationships.
2007-05-28 13:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the muslim man. I also don't think marriage is natural. I can't imagine anything worse than spending decades with the same person, knowing them so well you know exactly how and what they will say or do in any given situation. How boring!
2007-05-28 12:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Bunny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It';s our natrure to be totally out of interity and if ewe are smart, try to get on course and make sure we don;t hurt oursleves or others. Cheating on a partner, though it may seem natural, breaks trust apart. Terrible.
2007-05-28 12:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not everyone is the same, but it do'es seem that way sometimes. Though as the saying go'es, it takes two to tango and if its offered on the plate...
2007-05-28 11:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there a lots of examples of both sexes in nature being gay, celibate and having more than one partner. love [not] the myth spread around by men for men
2007-05-28 11:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by the_inconsistant_gardener 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not in our 'nature'.
It is a decision made by an intelligent creature who can and should know better. We are not animals and cannot use that as an excuse.
2007-05-28 11:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋