he likes me and loves me very much. but his wife forgive him give him chance and he felt guilty. they trying hard to save their marriage now. but after so much of effort he still miss me, call me & date me out. he told me its tempted and lust. he sometime deny the feeling of love. can anyone tell me is love and lust come together? he told me he lost his courage to love me cos of his wife forginess. but when i told him i wanted to quit he start to panic and sad. he will do little deed to make me stay. since he put in effort to save his marriage but why he still have feeling for me? did he truly loves me? i decided to end this relationship, but we work at same company. whenever we can see each other we find it very hard to let go the feeling. he avoid me sometime but sometime he miss me and he will appear infront of me. the emotion dragging till now. how to bury the feeling if we still work in same place? we both suffer cos not willy to let go but have to cos of his marriage.
2007-05-28 04:28:43 · 15 answers · asked by sarah@520 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is trying to patch things up with his wife then you need to take a deep breath, get a firm grip on your emotions, let him know that you support his efforts to mend his marriage, and then BACK OFF. Make yourself completely unavailable. The marriage vows are sacred, and there are no provisions for homewreckers. Find someone else who is unattached and available for you.
2007-05-28 04:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit being used, and allowing it to happen. No, he doesn't love you, or his wife, he loves himself only. And he is playing you like a fiddle.
Time heals all wounds, tell him to work it out with his wife, if she'll have him and forget about him. You will meet someone else who truly loves you and wonder what in the world you were thinking. Get out now, he cares nothing about you. It is lust, wanting something you can't have. Good luck.
2007-05-28 05:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is lust and not love. If so he would have left his wife and family and already been with you. The problem with dating someone married is they don't want anything more than a few hours here and there with you. They have the best of both worlds with having a wife and mistress. Surely you don't want to be second best?
2007-05-28 04:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry to tell you this but all he wants is to have you there in case his wife doesn't give him any. But all you are to him a someone who he can have sex with. Because if he loved you he would leave his wife for you. ANd if you break it off with him he will get upset because he will know he won't have you on the side. You should break up with him and move on and not bother with him anymore because he doesn't love you all he wants is sex from you. Even if you and him work in the same company, when he shows up tell him to leave. And if he doesn't put a complaint against him.
2007-05-28 04:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done two things that are NO-NOs...and now you are paying the price by suffering!
Mistake number one: Having an affair in your workplace.
Mistake number two: Having an affair with a married man.
If you really want to move on with your life, decide to stop seeing him for good. Do not contact him and do not answer his emails or phone calls. If you do not do this, you will continue to suffer and to make his wife suffer, too.
Would you like to be in his wife's shoes? I don't think so!
2007-05-28 04:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
...Because I am the "wife" in this scenerio I think you should back off.
He obviously made his choice and has gone back to keep his committment.
There are plenty of "single" men so go after them. Don't just bury the feeling kill it!
Do it for his best interest and yours.
ESPECIALLY if there are kids involved.
This is Lust..because if it were love there would be respect and obviously you lack it for him.
2007-05-28 06:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a homewrecker and leave him alone. He cannot be tempted by you if you stop seeing him. Sounds like his wife loves him. And you should respect her wishes to keep him. He does not want to end his marriage. So, if you continue, he will use you for sex. And you will be the same as a common hooker. Get it?
2007-05-28 04:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is a loser. He wants his cake and eat it too. You are the one being cheated out of a life with someone you love and care for to just slip around with this creep.
Who does he spend holidays with, go home to at night?
Don't ever let someone make you be number two or second best.
Tell him to stay away from you that you are tired of being used.
2007-05-28 04:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by p00756 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Can you ride in two boats at a time? Certainly not! Then how can he? His relation with his wife is legal. So, let him be with her. If you can resist your lust for him, just leave him alone.
2007-05-28 09:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Rekhaa Kale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, you are the Mistress on the side, the punching bag, he is not going to leave his wife and every chance he gets he is going to be porking you.
2007-05-28 04:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋