Why Do I Hate My Own Child ? When I Tried For Years To Have Him ?

Question

i cant look at my own baby . help

Answer 1

yeah, definitely get some help. you may have postpartum depression.

good that you are seeking it. this isn't the place to help you, you need a psychiatrist.

Answer 2

Motherhood can be overwhelming at times. You did not say how old your child is. You could be going though post pardum or it could be a clash of personalities. You need to call your doctor immediatley, just to ensure you are not gong through post pardum which is caused by an imbalance of harmones in your system. The doctor can prescribe some medication and follow up visits - nothing you did wrong, it just happens to women after they deliver babies some have a slight case, others have various ranges. It is verty serious, so you want to seekhelp immediatly.

Otherwise you need to contact a counselor for you and your child, so that you two can estbablish a better relationship and you know how to live together.

This is fixible, but you need to do something immediately.

Answer 3

How old is your baby? This might be a sign of post partum depression. You really need to seek help for your sake and the baby's. If you ever feel like hurting him please put him down safely and go call 911 or a neighbor or someone to help you out. You really need to go see a doctor. You just have more advanced symptoms. This is the only thing I could think of but I'm sure it could very well be something else. Good luck and get some help even if its just calling a helpline for now they'll tell you what to do.

Answer 4

You poor thing. Bonding isn’t always instant. A newborn cries a lot, sleeps erratically and shows no affection. They are not the perfect little bundles of joy we build up in our minds for nine months. My husband doesn’t really fall in love with our kids till they are a few months old. The first few months motherhood is like a minimum wage job. Lots and lots of grunt work and very little in return. The word hate worries me. Not everyone feels that instant head over heals love, but you should not hate your baby. Hormones are crazy after you give birth. This can last for over a year. They are very powerful and can make you do crazy things. Talk to your Obgyn she can refer you to some one or give you an anti-depressant. There is no shame in needing help. I went through a rough time with post-partum after my first. I was able to manage it once I stopped breast feeding (so that I could get more than an hours sleep at a time) and started taking my daughter on long walks twice a day. Exercise, sleep as much as you can (seriously trying to maintain a clean house right now will drive you crazy), and call your doctor. You will be totally in love with that little one soon. Just remember to take a few min. break when you get stressed and take care of yourself as well. Happy mamas make happy babies.

Answer 5

check this out
http://www.4woman.gov/faq/postpartum.htm

and remember that you are not alone.
It can be embarrassing to admit that you feel this way but there is help and you are not crazy. If your baby is still a newborn then its very common. Wacky hormones can do crazy stuff.
Tell a family member that you trust that you are feeling this way.
If you start to think about harming your baby, get help right away. Place the baby in the crib and step outside and chill out for a few minutes. Having a new baby is very stressful and your life is turned up side down. What makes it worse is that everyone expects you to feel so thrilled and happy. This will pass but only if you reach out to your doctor. Dont hesitate. A happy mom makes a happy baby

Answer 6

Perhaps you were in love with the IDEA of having a baby and now that he's here maybe you're overwhelmed. Postpartum depression is very common, I suffered from it as well (I cried about everything!). You should seek counseling for managing your emotions, it can't hurt. Also, see your doctor about whether you are a candidate for a mild dose of anti-depressant. I highly recommend looking up interviews with Brooke Shields, as she also indicated that she felt some antimosity towards her first child.

Answer 7

There are a couple of reasons why you may not want to look at your own child.
One: You may just have parents remorse. That happens a lot with parents who spend so much time trying, then, they realize that they take up a lot of time.
You do not your child, you just do not like taking care of them.
I would suggest you go see a family counsler. They can probably give you better advice than anyone on here.

Answer 8

It sounds like you have some serious post-partum depression. A lot of women go through this and it's nothing to be ashamed about. I recommend "Down Came the Rain" by Brooke Shields, who experienced the same thing. You really need to get yourself in counseling quickly. This will get better but you need to get some help. Good luck.

Answer 9

You need to go to your Dr immediately, you may be suffering from some post partum, it is probably just hormones. You are probably a good person, so, the best thing to do, would be to go to the Dr as soon as possible, so you can ensure your baby is being taken care of properly.
Please make an appointment now.

Answer 10

How old is your baby? Could it be just post _parteum depression. If not and your past that you should go get some help you don't want it to get worse and end up hurting your baby.

Answer 11

Lady you have a problem and it might be Postpartum Depression, a VERY very serious illness that requires emergent attention, especially if you hate your child. Get some help fast.