i like one man. i'm 19 (2-nd year uni student). he's 41. i've been staying with my friend's family in new jersey state for 3 months. he's the friend of the family. he's divorced, his wife cheated on him, they don't see each other, no kids. he's a pretty well-known actor, he's a very nice, easy person, and very clever, sporty one as well. when he first came while having dinner he glanced at me now and then, we talked.he has a very good sense of humour. he came to me when i was doing the dishes and we talked again. then he came every time he had free time? we sort of became closer to each other. not htat he was paying me more attention than others.on the 3rd month i didn't sleep at night and was sitting downstairs in the dark room.heard someone coming.it was him,he wanted water.he saw me.we talked, he asked why didn't i have a bf and gave some good advices.after a while i fell asleep, and he took me to my room. when he turned to leave i woke up and asked him to stay.he said he couldn't because of my age, but i asked him, and we made love for 5-6 hours i guess.the whole family took off for a week to visit their relatives, so i stayed alone, and he also came. we spend whole week together.we had sex onyl twice! so it's not just sex.now we're together for 5 months, i met his friends, parents, we care about each other. one of my friends that know him said he was thinking to move in with me and stuff.
do you think i should move with him? what do you think in generaldon't say he's too old, coz i'm always into men in their late 30s-early40s, and yes, i have a father,he's my best friend, i love him very much
2007-05-28 04:02:39 · 8 answers · asked by Rose M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd say if both of you love each other, why not?? age is just a number.
but be prepare for the consequenses, age different sometimes gives problems and conflict (offcourse depends on the person).
2007-05-28 04:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by "LuckyStar" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with an older man is not as bad as a lot of people will try to tell you. My sister is married to a man about 23 years older than she is, and they are very happy together, and have been for 10 years. The only thing I would say is that you should think about the age difference, and remember that he is much older, and that he is probably quite set in his ways. Look at all the negative aspects of being with someone of that age, and if they seem like no big deal, then go ahead and stay with him. As long as you are both happy, don't let anyone change your mind for you.
2007-05-28 11:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It’s nice to think that age doesn’t matter in a relationship, but in reality it does matter a lot. Even more so at your age and where you find yourself at this moment in time. If you were 29 and he was between 41 and 51 it wouldn’t be so much of a problem, but at 19 and going to college? No, I don’t think it’s a good idea to move in. Remember it is easier to start and end a relationship when you don’t live with each other then when you do.
Either way, good luck to you
2007-05-28 11:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by tatajulio365 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it, but he's too old. It may not seem like it but 22 years is a huge difference in terms of maturity at this stage. You are young, naive, and easily influenced. He's mature, settled, and experienced.
And since it seems like you're more worried about the sex, I can see this is not a mature, healthy relationship. You're a piece of hot young tail for him. Sure he may care for you, but in the long run, this is nothing more than booty.
Find men closer to your age. I like older men too but even at 26 and with life experience under my belt, I wouldnt go for anyone 10-15 years older.
2007-05-28 11:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when he is 60 you will be 38 . I know you have feelings for him... But, it wont work . he will be an old man and you will be in your prime. Is the fact that he is an actor attracting to you ? or at 40 he can be financially stable ? Now is ok 40 is not old. But at 60 ...he probably wont have energy to do the things someone at 35 will do. Don't rob yourself of a beautiful future with someone your age. Trust me...i know !!!
2007-05-28 11:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by nutcracker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ill be honest with you. When i was 18 I married a man 13 years older than myself. I loved him he loved me. The marriage sucked!! he couldn't get over the age gap and was constantly treating me like i was a child. I lost all respect for him because he had stopped showing me any. It is your choice if you are happy then go with your heart.
2007-05-28 11:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH HIM, THEN SO BE IT.
DO NOT LET ANYONE JUDGE YOU. IF YOUR HEART
LEADS YOU TO HIM, THEN FOLLOW. YOU SHOULD
NOT EVER HAVE ANY REGRETS IN LIFE. AND IF IT DOES NOT WORK THEN IT DOES NOT WORK. AND
IF IT DOES I WISH YOU THE BOTH MUCH HAPPINESS
IN THE WORLD..... AND AS FOR YOU MOVING IN WITH
HIM I THINK YOU SHOULD WAIT UNTIL YOU HONESTLY
GET TO KNOW HIM A LITTLE BETTER. LEARN AS
MUCH AS YOU CAN ABOUT THIS GENTLEMAN.
AND THEN TAKE IT FROM THERE........
2007-05-28 11:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is sad! find someone your age or at least within like 10 years of you...its not that hard!
2007-05-28 11:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by fordpsd99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋