why is my exwife acting like this nice 1 min and nasty the next(we have one child and have been divorced 4yrs)

Question

I left her and It was a very bitter divorce.Things have seemed to calmed down some.Now the nice things she does is always buy me x-mas,b-day,father day gifts for my son to give me.Always lets me see my son whenever i want and for as long as i want.now for the bad she nickels and dimes me for everything(i all rdy pay her the max the court ordered) and "blasts" me if i give her gref.She trys to run my house by making me stick to all her rules(we have joint custody)like bedtime,movies,ect and i get hell if i don't.The worst is the way she treats my gf(not the reason i left her) who loves my son dearly and treats him great.She talks poorly about her to my family in frount of my son.Flipped out when she went with me to a p/t conference.It was such a mess the school has asked me to keep my gf away from any school functions.There is no reason for this as my gf has never done anything to my ex or son.I know what can do i just want to know why is she acting like this?

Answer 1

sounds to me like your ex is having a hard time dealing with the fact that another woman may be helping raise 'her' child. May be a 'control' factor. She may feel she doesn't have control over how things are done for the child and lashes out in anger. And you are the one in the path of that anger. She may feel that the school thing is strictly for the parents and doesn't know how to be adult and talk to you about it. It has nothing to do with the specific gf. She would probably act the same with any gf you might have. AFTER you left, did you ever talk to her about why you made the decision to end the marriage. (If you told her the day you left, she probably was feeling too emotional to remember.) There could still be many issues your ex is dealing with. Try just talking to her about the two of you parenting your child and the best way to do it. You'd be surprised how far a little communications will go.

Answer 2

If you think she acts normally, then there is nothing wrong with her except that she is jealous of your present girlfriend.There are times when we do nasty things when we react to situations.If you don't really like what is happening, then live away from her.Just try to be a good dad to your son the best possible way.

Answer 3

Jealousy envy and maybe regret... ask her if she wants to get back and patch back and maybe she may tell the truth to you. or if not then ask her to get the hell away from you but frankly my advice is to get back to her and work it out coz it seems she loves you still

Answer 4

We don't know her, it's up to you to ask her, she was your wife!