What is something you want to LOSE but want it BACK once you LOST it?

Question

why does losing voluntarily & involuntarily make a difference when you want to Lose it anyways?

Answer 1

Ahhh, the first answer that came to me was:

Your Mind!

We all want to let go of our inhibitions now and then, but invariably feel a little bit remorseful about what we do when we manage to let loose. After awhile though, we become wistful for that freedom that we've lost once we are back under control. It makes us long for our childhood, Middle aged crazy, wonder about the joys of promiscuity, lustful for the lack of self control brought on by alcohol. We want to let go, but once we do, we wish we had held on. Life is full of contradictions, but this is the most melancholy of them all.

Answer 2

I think the distinction between voluntarily and involuntarily could make a difference when you are talking about time, money or virginity. When you lose something involuntarily, it means that you did not really want what you gained from losing the thing you lost in the first place, at least not in that manner. For example, if you lost some money because you bought a new car, it would be voluntary, and perhaps you would wish you had the cash back again. If you lost money because of a gambling spree, or lost your virginity due to rape or to a misguided moment, or lost your time due to some problem out of your control, you would feel regret.

Often it seems that the desire to have something or to do something is more important than actually having or doing it. The anticipation is more delicious than the item or the deed. That is what we miss. Though we might not realize it, we wish we had the intense desire again.

Answer 3

I broke my rule (again!) to scan the answers. Seems some didn't see the WANT to lose, & spoke of things they wished they hadn't lost, but not that they had WISHED to. Anyway, that's my take on quite a few. I can't think of anything I WANTED to lose, nor do I "hold onto" things. It would be an entirely different question if you'd asked: "What have you LOST that you wish you had BACK" Am I being a nit pick???

Edit: Curious. Do people really WANT to lose time?

Answer 4

I'm sorry, but I simply don't understand how losing voluntarily or involuntarily has anything to do with "wanting" to lose it. If you "wanted" to lose it, wouldn't that be voluntary? Or, do you mean by involuntary, like someone took it away from you but you wanted to "lose" it anyway, & then you wanted it back??

Answer 5

Lots of people fall into promiscuity and lost their virginity, only to wish that they could have gotten it back for the one true mate they realized they should have kept it for. It makes a difference because you realize you were deceived, and that after the fall you can't get it back, you can't unscramble the egg, and the wedding experience would have been a much different and more meaningful experience that is now impossible.

Answer 6

Time

Answer 7

In essence you cannot lose anything but yourself...that is why you want it back....everything you see and put intent focus on might be considered as yourself, you literally give yourself to it...Piece of your own consciousness...it is matter of human love /hate, like /dislike and so on...that is why once you focused then it will be revolving around first in your mind, unless you let it go,then , eventually, in reality. Manifested in reality it is you, and at the same time your opponent, and you'll experience diversity of polarities. Drama....in which we dwell, and call it life...YOU WANT YOURSELF BACK, not an apparitions which adopted piece of you...sometimes as their own

Answer 8

Childhood

Answer 9

Your question does not make sense. If you want to lose it then why would u want it back. We can't consciously tell this. We can only know AFTER we lose that particular something. We cannot know we want it back already befor we actually lose it.

Answer 10

People are stupid. Sometimes they don't really want to lose it, sometimes it's just because they want to control everything so they'd get angry if someone else got rid of something for them.