I need answers. I'll hurt by my heart and maybe physical but I need to get out.
2007-05-28 03:28:43 · 28 answers · asked by !!engaged&underage*HAPPY*!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your name says it all. I know that you are scared of the consequences. You don't give a lot of info though. You are 16, so I am assuming you are in school. Does he attend the same school? Is he out of school? Talk to your school guidance counsolor. They are there not to judge you, but to help you. Also your situation isn't unfamiliar territory for them. They will know how to guide you in making this choice. Since you already know he is an abuser, you really need to get a restraining order asap. Never talk to him alone, or be alone with him. In fact there is no reason for you to ever speak to him or see him again. If you feel like you can't just leave the situation hanging with no explanation, then call or write a letter and then be done with the whole thing. You need to be honest with your parent, and counselor. You DO NOT want to be another statistic in the morgue.
2007-05-28 08:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by TiaRanita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the local domestic violence women's shelter - they have information on how to get yourself out of an abusive relationship and sometimes can provide a place to stay - at least in my area it does that. If you don't have a place like that contact the local social services department. Do you have friends that the other person doesn't know where they live? You could see about staying with them as well. There are always options - just start asking people around you and someone will think of something. Good luck
2007-05-28 10:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by dragoninfo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken relationships always hurt at first. However, it is better to get out while you still can avoid a physical confrontation than to wait until things get so bad that you are in physical danger from abuse. Just get as far away from the abuser as possible and do not go back. Time will help you to get over it. Just do it, now.
2007-05-28 10:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k I was in an abusive marriage and I got hurt bad, so my suggestion to you is pack a bag and put it at someones place so that he doesn't know you done it. Call a shelter when he's not there because he cant get at you. Get a bond right away, just call the cops and tell them that you are in an abusive situation and you need a bond yesterday. That is a start. If you have children make sure you have clothes packed for them to. Just call a shelter they will set you up with everything. Dont worry about anything else right now except your safety, everything will come in time. Dont stay there and wait to get hurt because it may be to late then and believe me he wont change.!!!
2007-05-28 10:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disappear while he is away on business somewhere or has gone to Chicago for the game, etc. Lose the cell phone. Sell the car. Take a bus out of there. See if you can set up another ID. Cut off contact with everyone that he knows you know. Make sure you empty his telephone of all addresses and numbers and take all the books with addresses and telephone numbers in them. Remove all the telephone bills. Get a postal redirection to a a redirection company. Pay them in advance and do not collect the mail any time soon. If he has a criminal history, leave the State and leave the country. Make sure you remove all guns.
2007-05-28 10:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
from experience in a mentally abusive relationship to a wonderful relationship i can tell you that there is no time like the present. call a really close friend or family member to help you or Even a policeman. Go to him tell him you are not going to take it anymore and you are leaving then press charges against him for the abuse. then leave. i don't know all of the details of the abuse but abuse is abuse and it is not healthy for you. One of my best friends was killed in an abusive relationship. You have to just think about what is important to you your life or him. if it is really bad then go to the police find a safe place to go then get someone to go with you or just go without anything you can always get more stuff. get out now before it gets worse. He does not deserve you or your love. anyone who abuses someone they say they love don't love them just wants to be in control. you will find something better. I did.
2007-05-28 10:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by tink1978mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen lady, if your scared you need to contact a woman's shelter. They will be able to protect you against an abusive partner.
And as for your heart, well they have group therapy and stuff in those places, failing that you could always speak to someone you trust or a shrink.
I wish you all the luck in the world with geting a way. GOD BLESS YOU
2007-05-28 10:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get out be getting out--ending it in NO uncertain terms. If you are physically afraid of being beaten or stalked, the police will help and advise you. Help will also be available from a minister, a priest, counselor, or, if you are under age, child protective services. Please act.
BTW, you have already been hurt by subjecting yourself to the abuse and you need help for that.
2007-05-28 10:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are women shelters that no one knows the address to. You could stay there for a while. I the guy is really a nut you might want to move. If you live w/ your parents tell them about it. You might want to get the police involved as well. Maybe a restraining order. But sometimes a restraining order doesn't really help situations.
2007-05-28 10:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him at this point in your life, you do not want to continue a relationship. Stay with friends or family, with someone that can protect you if you run into him somewhere. It will hurt your heart at first, but it is the best for you.
2007-05-28 10:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by WE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋