I've been dating a guy for over 7 months now, and I just know its working, we have plans for the future and he supports me in everything I do. Why is it that my friends don't like him? Some of them that "don't like him" live in California (I live in NY and have only met him for literally minutes. I just really bothers me because because all of my friends basically went away to school, he became my eveything and they can't exept it. help!
2007-05-28 02:53:09 · 21 answers · asked by Alicia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This one is simple to answer. You have made your life and you have someone that loves you and you love him. Friends come and go but finding someone to spend the rest of your life with is more important. My suggestion for you to be able to deal with the bad feeling coming from your freinds is to ask them why they do not like him. Get their thoughts and decide if it is worth giving someone up for. Make new freinds and move on with your life.
2007-05-28 02:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Karen S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it bothers me that you say that you have only met him for literally minutes.. I'm not sure if this is love, or infatuation.
Your friends care about you, you don't mention why your friends don't approve, that would give another clue. Ask your friends what it is that bothers them about this relationship, or about this guy. They (your friends) know you longer than he does, and they may have spotted something about him that you're currently too blinded to see.
Sounds like he became your everything exactly because your friends are away, and you need someone to lean on. That's not exactly a firm basis for a lifetime.
Without complete information, it's pretty hard to understand completely what is going on in your relationship.
2007-05-28 09:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by tottpaula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that all this will pass.
You will make new friends. you need not worry, you have the protection of the distance.
If you are in school then study hard, play some, build a carrier, enjoy the youth, it comes but once so make the most of it. Here to day gone tomorrow.
You have made the plans so hope it works out, plans do change, no one knows what tomorrow will bring.
2007-05-28 10:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK since when do you listen to your friends about who you go out with. If you don't tell them what to do what makes them think they can. If I was you I would get new friends. ANd tell teh old one's to go jump in the ocean. Because you shouldn't worry about what friends or anybody thinks about as long as it comes to your life. SO enjoy it with him and tell your friends to talk to the hand. Maybe they are jealous that they can't find a real man in the land of the gays.
2007-05-28 10:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to your "friends" that if they are really your friends, that you are extremely happy with him. That he fills in that void you have had since They moved away. Tell them you haven't forgotten them, and you miss em very much. Maybe it isn't that they dont like him, maybe they believe they have been replaced. Let them know they haven't.
Try working it out with them before telling them to hit the road, so to speak. I am sure they will listen and understand. Make sure they are aware of what there actions and feelings toward your guy, are doing to you. I am sure evverything will be fine.
2007-05-28 09:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie...That's often what happens when you get into a serious relationship. Your friends are a bit jealous but if he's good to you they will come to see this in time. Follow your heart and give your friends time to adjust.
Good Luck To You!
P.S. I am from the north west but live in upstate N.Y.!
2007-05-28 10:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ShadySadie♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try asking your friends why they do like him....forgive me if i empathise with them,but i was in their situation, if they are your really close friends, den they'll probably have a very good reason to not like the guy, but if they're not, and they don't know the guy and you're sure he's a good guy, hell with your so called 'friends'
2007-05-28 14:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my best friend has a boyfriend that none of us liked and we tried so hard to brake them up. But she loved him and their still dating ! Give your friends some time they'll come around. Just show them what a nice guy he is. But know its as hard on them as it is you! You should try to spend more time with them and do things that you guys did before you started dating that guy!!!!
2007-05-28 10:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me, accept it wa over the summer when my friends were at their country clubs, and on vacation, all you have to do is wait untill they get ack, or till summer when they are back fom college, because then he wont be your everything, and your friends will share you with him, and they'll learn to like him don'tworry about it.
2007-05-28 09:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by illinigal12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i wouldnt care what they think its not there life, my mates and my Girlfriend don't really get on but i just get on with it, if they don't like him or her then thats there problem not yours, i mean if its going as well as you say then right now hes more important than they are, and you should just tell them to get over it and tell them its your life not theirs. hope that helped!
2007-05-28 10:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋