well, im just wondering. my exboyfriends family ALL have cheated on their spouses. they have kids with many women. and well, my ex just cheated on me. i thought he was different, how stupid of me. so im just wondering. do you think that cheating is hereditary/genetic? or is it an excuse that he has to do it cause thats all he knows?
2007-05-28 02:28:24 · 19 answers · asked by BeAuTiFuL 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
No, but it is a learned behavior. He grew up with that being the norm, so he may have a higher inclination to think a girl on the side is acceptable. In many modern societies it actually is the norm. France for one, has a high percentage of mistresses in a long term marriage. Then there's the "First Wife" having a higher status and basically chaperoning all future wives to Kings and Pharaohs...it goes way back girl. If he's only doing it because that's how he was raised and conditioned to be, then you may have to cut him some slack and not freak out that it's something to do with you, it's about him, so fix it! Or get out if it's hopeless and you can't accept it...then it's time for you to boogie.
2007-05-28 02:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mizz SJG 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've cheated on people before,and I've also been cheated on.That's why I believe that open relationships are the way to go.Not that people should take advantage of their relationship being open often,but a whole lot of people in long term relationships do tend to stray at some point,it's just human nature.So it's always good to have the cheating end of a relationship a bit open,so that if/when it happens it won't ruin everything all together.I'd rather forgive someone I love for their mistakes than to run away because of them and vice versa.
2016-05-19 21:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by sharon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is hereditary or genetic I think the child learns from the parents, that is what youre supposed to do or that is ok to do. And it is also the persons own decision making. I would talk to your boyfriend about it and say "just because youre family does this doesnt mean you have to"
I wish the best of luck to you!!
2007-05-28 06:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by marya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so, just thinking about the whole idea, it sounded ridiculous. what happened to your ex-bf's family might just be a mere coincidence. Cheating is not and I think will never be hereditary/genetic, its a matter of choice. Its choosing loyalty over infidelity.
2007-05-28 02:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Saltbreaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not hereditary, but if a person sees his/her parents treating each other disrespectively, cheating, name calling etc...then they tend to continue the pattern of behavior. Next bf, go to his parents home and really watch how they interact with each other. It goes the other way too...if he/she sees a parent accepting abuse (because that's what it really is) then the kids may tend to accept it in their relationships too. It's a difficult cycle to break.
Don't knock yourself for loving and trusting him. It's good to expect the best from someone. But now you know what his best is...and it's not good enough for you...find someone else...
2007-05-28 02:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice avatar,no I think cheating is from your up bringing and surroundings.If your parents and friends cheat and you see this it is more likely that you will.
2007-05-28 02:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by one10soldier 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you look like your picture suggests your bound to get cheated on,
2007-05-28 02:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by pecanchew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's genetic. You learn from your peers. Obviously, he had some cheating peers.
2007-05-28 02:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not hereditary, maybe learned behaviour in some cases
2007-05-28 02:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by sarahmoose2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but it can b from monkey see monkey do
if he is raised with that example from his father and his mother accepts it, then he will think it is the normal thing to do
2007-05-28 02:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by Nora G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋