my best friend's boyfriend has been one of my best friends for a while. and my boyfriend was one at my best friends for years, now everything has changed, it sucks. what should i do about my feelings for my best friend's boyfriend?
2007-05-28 01:59:46 · 25 answers · asked by Gwenna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i go to the same school as my best friend's bf and she goes to a different school. not to mention i sit next to her bf in 4 classes.
2007-05-28 02:06:10 · update #1
hmmm a sticky situation, the way these situations usually turn out are the girl goes for it and the best friend finds out,then you lose the best friend, and gain a boyfriend.The question really is
2007-05-28 02:11:51
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I think you should definately not act on it. Find another guy that you really like and start to date him. If in 6 months you still feel the same about the boy then I would tell him (but tell you friend first). Keep in mind that if this is the way you go then there is going to be drama and you are more than likely going to lose your best friend. Just think it through and take your time.
If after 6 months you DO NOT feel the same then dont worry about it and move on. I dont think that taking action so quickly is a good idea. You are probably just wanting something that you could have had and now you cant have. Make sure that is not what this is all about before you do anything. You do not want to make a mistake over something juvenile and end up losing a good friend.
2007-05-28 12:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by Morgan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, unless you want to lose both of them. You can have strong feelings for someone and not act on them. The fact that you have been friends with the boy for so long and didn't want to act on these feelings until after your friend started going out with him should tell you something. Maybe it is more the close friendship you miss. Two of your best friends have now formed a special bond without you and that doesn't feel great. Things changed and you had no say in it. I think you may be misinterpreting these feelings for wanting to be with the boy.
If you do anything like go telling the boy how you feel, the girl will feel betrayed and you will lose her friendship. And if the boy is a good guy, he should want to be with the girl he is with and not go leaving her for another girl coming around. So he rejects you, you feel awkward around him. Or, if he were to return your feelings, how could you ever trust him not to do that to you with the next girl who comes around (or even your friend coming back into his life)?
2007-05-28 09:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be that girl. That is all I am saying, you will most likely lose that friend forever, and if the feeling between you and him are mutual I still doubt that it will last as I have been in that situation as the best friend and I know that the way they started the relationship made it very difficult to trust each other and not worry that their relationship awaited the same fate. It's just a bad idea. Not to mention if this girl is really your best friend you wouldn't do anything to hurt her like that.
2007-05-28 09:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Trixie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope! There's nothing wrong, but it actually depends on how close they are before you make any moves on him. For example if he's the type of guy who tells her every single detail of everything....like who calls her everynight to tell her about every hour of his day, I suggest you stay away from him. Because if you flirt with him and he's that type of guy, chances are he will tell your best friend. If he isn't you can casually flirt or joke around with him. Help him with something. But be careful what you say don't go overboard when flirting. It's kind of a challenge flirting with someone who already has a girlfriend. Good luck and don't forget to be yourself! â¥
2007-05-28 12:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by ☺Lisa☺ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whether its right or wrong to be in love with someone is irrelevent, its how you feel. No amount of people telling you its wrong or right will change that.
Its rather what you decide to do with the situation that will be judged. you should never have to feel sorry for being in love. Just try as much as possible to make sure your actions are unhurtful, and if that is impossible pick the path that will cause the least amount of distress
2007-05-28 09:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by Paul R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is completely wrong and you should stay as far away from it as possible. If they break up, it's fair game. But now, you should just leave it alone. There are more than enough other men out there for you to find, you only want him because you can't have him. Stay away.
2007-05-28 09:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by SelfGrill 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. It is wrong. Leave him alone or be prepared to lose your friendship with your best boyfriend and your friend.
2007-05-28 09:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't wrong to have feelings for your friends boy friend but it is wrong to act on those feelings.
2007-05-28 09:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Charley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is your best friend then it is wrong for u to like her boyfriend,i know you cant help it but its still wrong.
2007-05-28 09:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋