This guy i loved to death. He said he was gay he was pretty sure of it and he said he loved me. Now is love just a term that is thrown around nowadays? Because I seriously from the bottom of my heart loved him. Anyway, my question is Why after being together so long did he suddenly start ignoring me... I called him up and he simply said "It's over" then hung up on me and never answered my calls. This was a while back and after all that happened I had troubles sleeping and eating for about a month after. I mean i just dont understand why we couldnt atleast be friends. I mean we had troubles in the past but all i wanted was for him to be happy. He didnt seem happy when i last heard from him so i just wanted to atleast keep in touch with him. Now i just dont know what to do. I still have troubles sleeping sometimes when i get to thinking about him... I just dont understand why i cant move on... any advice? and dont say "Move on" because that never works and you know it! lol
2007-05-28 01:02:44 · 7 answers · asked by LadyJayden 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have me on myspace? well i have a myspace account but i dont really do anything with it anymore... i actually deleted my profile and remade it many times lol... And no... finding a new boyfriend wont help... he was the first and probably last person i have ever loved.
2007-05-28 01:12:46 · update #1
Yea moving on... finding something to occupy my time... i had highschool marching band to take my mind off him but that was only because there were a bunch of cute guys to focus on when i wasnt marching my *** off *checks behind him*... damn still there... must not have marched hard enough. But im a senior this year so that is kinda all over with for me. oh well.
and drew... thanks. Maybe we could hook up some time and do something ~_^ lol jk...sorta. either way. I will try to move on. Yea i guess there are more people out there. It's just hard to let go of someone you loved so much. And it's not like he died... if he had died that would have been easier knowing i'd have no way of contacting him but knowing that he is still alive and living life without having ANYTHING to do with me hurts ALOT more than the initial break up... yea... love sucks. If i never love again it would be too soon. I still wonder if he even thinks about me anymore tho.
2007-05-28 01:22:34 · update #2
so... love myself? do i need to... like... hug or kiss myself? because i can do that if i have to! lol
2007-05-28 01:30:03 · update #3
Omg, this happened to me, too! I hate being in love, it sucks so much, especially when the other person doesn't feel the same way... I'm so sorry dude, but the only thing you can do is let time your wounds itself, I know it sounds cliche, but that's all you can do really, unless you wanna see a therapist. It took me like a year to get over this guy I used to know, yes a year >_
P.S. sure man, if you have messenger or something, you can message me anytime, or Myspace, I have that also!
2007-05-28 01:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The end of a relationship always leaves a number of questions unanswered -- When 'love ends' the reason for the relationship and the relationship itself usually ends.
You do need to move on now, and you can and will certainly meet some others you can love more.
In order to move on, you need to 'get a life.' this means that you need to re-invent yourself -- think Madonna, Cher, David Bowie -- each time their lives came to an artistic end, they reinvented themselves -- in love we have to do the same thing.
But you need to fall in love with yourself, again, which means doing the 'work' needed to re-discover yourself. This might mean joining a support group, getting therapy, or taking a vacation. Only you can decide.
Best wishes.
2007-05-28 01:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kedar 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The term "move on" doesn't just mean forget the past it means do something else to occupy the space your past takes up. Get involved in something you love to do and throw yourself into it. You have to make a concerted effort to occupy your time so that you have time to heal. This guy clearly doesn't want anything from you, including friendship. As hard as that is, its the truth and to regain your life, you need to accept it. Yes its hard, anything in life worth doing is hard. Be a man and move on. Good luck to you.
2007-05-28 01:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi i really feel for you, of course you cant move on, life is not that simple, what you are going through is grief, you have lost something you loved very deeply, unfortunately there is no "quick fix", and it will take time for you to start to feel better, the only thing i can really say is you need some mates you can talk to, but honestly believe me it will get easier and better but it will take some time. Pete, (let me know how you get on)
2007-05-28 03:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by pete m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jeez that must suck for you. You gonna have to move on no matter how hard it is. You have my sympathy and good luck.
2007-05-28 04:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by A Journey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new bf and make him jealous :D it always works umm lol
& i think i have u on my myspace o_O
2007-05-28 01:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as love its a misunderstanding between two people
2007-05-28 01:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋