Despite the fact that I didn't really try to develop a strong friendship with anyone at work, I have become quite close to a colleague.
He used to call me, and arrange for us to go out. We were clearly getting close and more affectionate with each other.
I don't understand what happened, all of a sudden he stops talking to me. I know it's over, and I am very angry about this and I am starting to hate him in a way, yet deep down I still have feelings for him.
How do i get over him?
2007-05-27 23:54:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Some relationships just aren’t meant to be -- Your colleague may well be immature or confused, as your ‘all of a sudden he stops talking to me’ suggests. Ask yourself, do you really want to pursue a relationship with this guy if he doesn't have the courtesy to give you explanation?
I assure you, no one gets through life without being hurt by another person -- It doesn’t matter what your sexual orientation, your race, your occupation, or your religious beliefs are, the pain of a broken relationship can be devastating, and ‘Love and hate are two sides of the same coin’.
There is no specified time for healing, no magic formula, and no quick fix -- This hurts and will hurt for a while. You question everything as you go through the stages. But, as you heal little by little you grow stronger, wiser, and more empowered. And yes, you can even forgive.
All I can suggest is, make a list of the positive aspects of your relationship with the person who hurt you. There must have been something positive, or you wouldn’t have participated in it. This helps you regain some perspective and not paint the picture in completely negative terms.
2007-05-28 00:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing I would do is call him or go to him and ask him honestly and directly what is going on? I mean you can say how you feel and that you are disappointed or angry, whatever it is, and that you would like an explanation, pointing out of course by examples of how close you believed you were prior to his withdrawing behavior.
If you do this then everything is on the table. Who really knows why he is avoiding you, but there is a reason and all you can try to do is bring it out by honesty and see what happens.
Love and hate are opposite sides of the same continum IMO. I call it love and fear...you fear the loss of something that felt very good to you on an emotional level and you had hopes it would progress to the physical. Sometimes when we have an expectation of how something will be ( and believe me I have been there ) and it does not pan out in that manner we are left with conflicting feelings as you described.
Good luck!
2007-05-28 00:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've ever been in REAL LOVE... you would know that love is the strongest emotion one can feel. Beyond that, true love isn't just an emotion, it's a committment. You don't committ yourself to hating someone for the rest of your life... however you choose to love someone forever when you get married - even when they're unlovable. Love takes much less effort than hate, which is what God intended.
2016-05-19 21:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a conversation where you simply ask him what happened.
2007-05-28 00:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. ask him why so you can relax
2. relax and walk further till you meet the next one
2007-05-28 00:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by dreaming 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋