out of control even though your waiting to miscarry??? I feel so hurt and angry about this miscarriage! I blame my boyfriend because he said to me a couple times when he was angry that he hoped I miscarried, and now I am. I just hate him right now!! I don't know how I am going to get through this!! Please help if you have any segjestions!! Best answer gets 10 points!!
2007-05-27 20:41:03 · 10 answers · asked by Greer 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I just want to say how truely sorry I am to hear what you are going through. I have been in your shoes before. I can tell you with time it does get easier.. even if you can't ever see that. Your BF was wrong for saying those things to you, and i'm sure he regrets it now.... if not kick his a$$ to the curb! As for your hormones.. they are crazy outa whack right now. It will probably take you a month or 2 to get back to "normal". When I found out I was miscarrying I didn't believe it cuz I was still feeling pregnant. Even my HCG levels were rising, which is why I was told I wasn't having a miscarriage when indeed I was. It was one of the hardest things I have gone through in my life. The day I had my D&C my Bf was sooo mean to me. It made things worse, and I resented him for that. We are no longer together! Things do get better though! You will be in my thoughts.... Good luck, and don't let your BF bring you down.
2007-05-27 20:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by breazyizdabomb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all YES your hormones are still very likely out of whack. Second of all HOW DARE A MAN SAY SOME THING LIKE THAT TO A PREGNANT WOMAN??? You need to wait and stay away from him for a couple of weeks, stay with a friend or a relative that can be their for moral support, even though he didn't cause you to miscarry you want to blame him, which is perfectly natural after what he said. After a couple of weeks you'll have a better idea of whether or not you want anything to do with him, if you decide to stay with him then counseling will help. Meanwhile there are many groups out there for support in dealing with a miscarriage your doctor should be able to tell you of any of the local groups available and there are so many on line. I'll keep you in my prayers.
2007-05-27 21:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by peteybug76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, even if you could miscarry, there are still hormones whizzing though your blood stream, Add to that, the stresses you mentioned, and its no wonder that your world is out of kilter at the moment!
You need some support at this time, and it doesn't sound like its going to come from your boyfriend. Please open up to someone you trust, and get help. If there is no-one you can think of, see a professional. If you don't, this could spin out of control, and take over your life. Its possible to get post-partum depression even after a miscarriage. So get help now!
2007-05-27 20:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the jackass - that's your first move.
Second, it's definitely possible to have out-of-control hormones during a miscarriage; in fact, it can be the RESULT of the miscarriage, or even the cause of it. That is NOT to suggest that you caused it in any way; you don't have much control over them, after all. You are going through something very difficult; I'd be surprised if you DIDN'T feel a bit out-of-control right now.
I'm very sorry for your loss; hopefully, in time, you will have another opportunity for a child, but for now, grieving is something you need to do.
2007-05-27 20:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, it's not your boyfriend's fault that you miscarried. That was a terrible thing for him to say, but it didn't cause this.
Second, yes, you still have whacked out hormones, and may for a short while. Eventually though, it really will all go back to normal. You'll still be upset about it, and you need to work through things with your boyfriend, but the hormones will eventually settle back down and get back to normal.
Third...once they do, you need to have a serious talk with the boyfriend. Why did he say those things? Does he want to have a baby with you? If you do, and he doesn't, that needs to be resolved before you get pregnant again.
2007-05-27 20:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by E Yow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sexual option is commonly discovered by way of biology. It is essential to fully grasp that society's belief of there handiest being female and male mentalities is just too simplified. Each man or woman is neither wholly immediately or homosexual. Think of sexuality as a line among absolute heterosexuality and homosexuality. Everyone is someplace among the 2 ends of that line. So I do not know if it is hormones, however it's triggered by way of your genes.
2016-09-05 14:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, of course the hormones can be whizzing around you right now...after my wife's miscarriage, the docs told us that she would still have a positive pregnancy test for up to 10 days after the miscarriage...and of course you're obviously upset too (for many reasons)...which is adding to it.
Someone suggested that you should talk to your boyfriend about why he said what he did...sound advice...no point in continuing in a relationship where it doesn't go both ways. Talk to him though.
2007-05-27 20:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by Frank 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse you have hormones, it would be hard to forgive that man for what he said, maybe its time to look for a new boyfriend.
2007-05-27 20:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hormones would definitely be out of control, as are your emotions for a while. my prayers are with you
2007-05-27 20:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by momoftrl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you dump that assshole.
2007-05-27 20:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋