ho w to stop killing of young married women due to dowry system?

Answer 1

This is something we are not familiar with here in the States
I no about the Dowry that they give to their husbands .It is ashamed you have to bribe a man to marry your daughter.Stop the dowry all together then the woman will no that the man married her for her and not what she had to give the man in order for him to marry her.Why do the women let
this type of thing go on ?

Answer 2

While I respect cultures different from my own, I would agree with teenie that the dowry system itself contributes to this problem. A man and woman should marry because they love each other and not because the arrangement makes economic sense to one party or the other. Putting a price on a human being breeds a consumer mentality that should be reserved for buying a car or some other disposable product. Each of us (men and women) are more valuable than any amount of money one could offer so why even fix a price?

Answer 3

I am American, so forgive me if I do not get this right.

Based on the information available on the web and in the media, it appears legislation in India could be a little more effective. Legislate what is moral and decent and enforce it.

It also appears that there is a problem with enforcement. The family unit seems to be inpenetrable. Kind of a little mafia all unto themselves. So there are certain families who consider themselves above the Law. Until officials are honest and moral themselves, the law will remain corrupt.

The other observation I have made is that males seem to be of the opinion that they own their wife. Property is legally sold and disposed of by the owner. When men are taught that a human life is a human life, as ordained by God, who allowed that seed to be planted, then the violence in the villages will cease.

I know the West is regarded with disdain. I very much regret that opionion of us overseas. There are some basic tenets here that we hold to that could apply to the entire world. That we are entitled to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

Eastern countries seem to be devoid of any happiness. All they endure is economic distress and a constant loss of life. I believe this hardens mens hearts. It gives them justification for war.

Here, we just want everyone to get along. But we have the experience of living in a nation at peace. There hasn't been a war on American soil since 1865, and we like it that way.

There is never a day that take that for granted. I wish the same for you.

Answer 4

Dwry has no religious sanction. It is more of a social nuisance. Jungle raj was replaced by more oredrly organised religions. But injustices to women have crept in religious codes also. Be it a dowry death or honour killing, injustice is injustice. Any legislation to cure the malady is likely to produce more problems, probably in the form of reverse discrimination.
Solution is not simple. With imbalanced sex ration in favour of men, dowry system has to die a natural death. But with massive education drive, and quick justice dispensation system, situation can be improved. Any say from the religious quarters shall have to be done away with.

Answer 5

1. First of all both the parents should aware of this problem
2. The bride's parents should search the boy with some criteria - atleast the boy's income should satisfy the single family's basic needs.
3. The rules and regulations of the law of dowry should be very strict
4. At last the human beings should be human beings, they should not change their character into dogs or worse than that

Answer 6

The day her father stops marrying her for an amount of dowery rather get her educatged with that money!!

The biggest problem is "Both Giving and Taking is a Crime" - but people only point fingers at the party taking not the party giving!!

So if Giving is stopped automatically Taking also will stop to its the Girls Fathers who need to be put behind Bars 1st!!

Answer 7

Kill some of the killers by setting up kangaroo courts. Justice should be meted out by the public and instantaneously. That way the potential killer husbands and in-laws would be scared to an extent. If law has its way, experience tells us that the it would only be a matter of time before the killers go free.

Answer 8

all must allign and must pass out a resolution to declare dowry as a illegal part of a marriage sure it will take some time but dowry will be removed it is for sure

Answer 9

First of all, let me explain: I live in Spain since many years; originally my families is from India, but lives in another country.
My family is Jewish as well as I am.
Against my parents will (religious reasons above all) I married a Spanish man more than 10 years ago.
Meanwhile things have calmed down and the contact with my family is very good.
Regarding the population of India and the mentioned crime of killing young women due to dowry system, I must say, that thank goodness it’s not a usual practice. It happens, but it’s not normal, because most of the men are decent and don’t have in mind to commit a murder when they get married... but it’s a society problem.
There are families searching for a rich bride for their son and what they have in mind is commit a murder to grow rich.
Police investigation is not efficient at all regarding this issue.
I think government should be harder and there should be harder laws, putting whole families into jail (for the rest of their life). And I mean the whole family: parents, son (husband), sisters, brothers, etc.
I think this would help to show others who have crimes like that on their mind to stop that behaviour.
I think it’s also an educational problem, because as long as young women are sold like an object - things won’t change.
Many people regard a marriage as a splendid business and it should be the union between 2 persons who want to make a living together and raise a family.
As long as young women are not even asked whom they want to marry and not respected in that issue, how can things ever change?
Women are not a nice furnisher, which is sold and bought on the local market. We are human beings! But due to practice like this we are regarded as that.
For an average family (also those living abroad) it means a high cost to marry their daughters.
I ask you why? Women nowadays have their possibilities to study a career and have a good income.
But still families ruin themselves when marring their daughters.
I don’t think, that Indian parents don’t love their daughters, I just think they want to over protect them and bring them up in a traditional way, sheltering them from any harm... because having a daughter results more expensive on the long run than having sons. Entire families get ruined when marring a daughter.
Dowry system was something originally honourable in intention and provided for the independent wealth of the bride in a time when she was unlikely to work outside of the home.
So, that’s why there happen so many selective aborts and killing of female babies in Indian society.
But I will ask you another question: What will happen in the future? Imagine there are many young men who can’t find a woman to get married, because the proportion doesn’t fit anymore. Just imagine, in the future it will not be 50% - 50%, but 65% men - 35% women... then what???
Maybe this will change peoples mind and maybe society will start to respect the life and rights of girls and women...
Sound sad, but I think it’s so difficult to change peoples way of thinking in just a few decades.
Recently I have been talking with an Indian friend of mine who got married just a couple of months ago.
He loves and adores his wife and I think he would do almost everything for her to see her happy and he said, that they almost couldn’t get married because of the dowry system. It also exists here abroad!! Believe it or not!!!
The problem wasn’t his family, but hers!!! They felt ashamed not being able to provide a great dowry to her daughter.
Anyway, finally they succeed by telling the girls family that they will get married with or without family support.
Most college-educated Indians I know here (male and female), are against dowry system and see that the twisted form it has taken is responsible for the degradation of women. In these families, girl children are just as prized as boy children and parents are teaching their daughters of their own worth as a human being.
But we are still talking of the elite of the society, common people still stuck to their ancient traditions.
The best weapon against ignorance and intolerance is education and opening young peoples eyes, so they can work against these dement ideas.
Caste systems are officially abolished in India, but go and ask the people out there.
Marring outside your caste still is a problem with has no solution in most cases...
Time will tell and I do believe in the power of the young generation. I have seen, that most families treating their daughters the same way as their sons and many husbands who respect their wives.
So, this is the only hope we have...

Answer 10

Enforce existing laws firmly.
According to Islamic laws of marriage, not even a single penny from the pocket of the family of bride's side is to be spent in & every expenditure is to be borne by groom's side, absolutely. I don't know how many Indian non Muslims know this fact. Not even govt. agencies people know it in detail. It must be studied in finer detail by all. In pure Islamic society actually the groom has to pay money or costly things permanently to the bride at the time of marriage, as her property. Bride's parents are free from any expenditure. But the problem is that all Indian Muslims too do not follow the Islamic laws of marriage strictly as it is followed by majority to a great extent in almost all Arab nations. There boys are much more worried b coz bride's side put high amount of MEHER , as per their status & so, some of them try to bring brides from outside too . Islamic laws of marriage are frequently stated in Friday sermons in many mosques during the peak of marriage season(April to June) & mostly people know too. I hope many non Muslims too will try to study the same in finer detail & like the same too just for knowledge sake.
DOWRY DOES NOT AT ALL EXIST IN ISLAMIC STYLE OF MARRIAGE, BY LAW. Non Muslims must know it & learn a GOOD lesson.