I trust my wife, but people always say our ages will eventually come in between us. I don't believe this, because our relationship is good. ?
2007-05-27 19:23:57 · 27 answers · asked by Ducci 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you trust her? Do you have lots of things in common? Are you proud of her? If so, what the heck are you doing listening to these naysayers? Who cares what anyone else thinks. Stop concentrating on the negative. My daughter married a man 12 years older than her and they are ecstatic. Nurture your relationship, tell those other people to butt out if they have nothing good to say, stand by your wife, love her and respect her. As long as you two went into this with your eyes open and with open lines of communication you will be fine. No marriage is without its difficulties, so don't be quick to blame your marital problems on and doubt your decision to marry a younger woman. Wishing you and your wife many years of marital bliss!!
2007-05-27 21:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you trust your wife, then why are you asking this question? It had to have crossed your mind that some day she would be old enough to go out. Like anyone, sometimes she will want to go out with you, and sometimes she will want to go out with her friends, no big deal. You are married to her, not to "people", so you shouldn't worry about anything other than what you know to be issues in your relationship. If you married her because she was young enough that you didn't have to worry about her exploring her horizons, then you may lose some sleep over nothing. That is, unless she know this and wants to rebel from what she views as a father figure. Hopefully, you are right and your relationship is good, because if you relax and trust her, then you two will now be able to go out dancing and other 21 & over clubs. Could be alot of fun!
2007-05-27 19:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce rate is over 50% and you married someone who JUST turned 21?? How long have you been married? The government didn't think she was mature enough to even drink a beer, and you entered into a binding legal contract with her? HER age is the problem, not the DIFFERENCE between your ages. Even if she is mature for her age, that's still too young. Who she is now is NOT the person she is going to be when she grows up. Honestly, if you love her, I can't see why you would allow her to commit to you at such a young age. You should know better. I would be worried. Get a post-nup. Soon. She's too young to be in a marriage, and she'll realize it soon. Or she'll get bored. Or find someone else. Really, the difference of ages doesn't matter if you really love someone, what matters is that you happen to really love someone who is barely an adult.
2007-05-27 19:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by Cassidy B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she doesnt give you reason to worry than why worry? But I can see why yes it could be a problem because of the age difference her just turning 21, shes now legally an adult in every city and state and will want to experience things you already have,so be patient with her, and remember what it was like to turn and be 21.
2007-05-27 23:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 and my fiance is nearly 39.. my family was worried about the age difference at first, but we are very happy together and there was never any dramas for us. I guess the only difference with you isthat your wife is of an age where all her friends will be going out and dating and having flings etc... but if you trust her and your relationship, there really shouldn't be an issue.
2007-05-27 19:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by sc3578 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is an okay age difference, kind of at the top end. My husband and I are ten years apart, but we got married when I was 28 and he was 38. In your case, you married a girl before she went through her 20s, which is a valuable learning and discovering time for women. That may be more of a problem than the actual age different, though hopefully not.
2007-05-28 00:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case age mattered. Basically if you're open minded and she is willing to adjust, you'll be fine. It's all about adjusting. Just remember that your young wife is still emotionally developing. Expect some changes in the next decade.
2007-05-27 22:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by like-it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is normally not an issue..IF...you marry when you're older, I see very very few marriages last when they marry young....you might be ready but she may regret not getting to live the normal life a 21 year old should.
2007-05-28 01:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you have people going against the both of you. It's you all business to make liars out of all of them. Not all 21 year olds are wild or seeking a good time outside of home. You have to know that you are humane, but you have morals. Don't do anything to her that you wouldn't want done to you or your daughter. Prove them wrong.
2007-05-27 19:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I think that the way that she is treated by you is more important that the age difference. Both need to compromise at times within the relationship because of the difference but hey you need to compromise in any marriage.
2007-05-27 19:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by volsman1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋