Do you think expensive weddings should be outlawed?

Question

Everyone is to get married via courthouse/ church in plain clothes. No wedding attendants, no flowers, only two gold bands. No engagement diamond, but rather when a proposal is made, the next day marriage is to take place.

After a year of marriage, a large celebration party! (reception)

Do you think this would bring some people to reality about marriage? That's it's not about getting what you want, it's not about cake and dresses and flowers? It's about putting up, and shutting up, throwing your sence of pride down the toilet, knowing you're right but telling him that he is, it's about kids and their ability to drive you both nuts....

INDY: Don't you think that would keep people from making flipant proposals?

Jersey girl: LOL! You're from Jersey and you think I'm bitter....LOL hahahahhaa, oh you sweet simple little thing you.

Answer 1

I'm with you, Aloha. The cost of marriage is through the roof. A friend of ours told us about a hotel that will do "the whole thing" for just $40,000. Such a deal.

You can have a very nice wedding and reception for under $5,000, but you have to be creative, settle for less, and stay focused on what's really important: creating a new family unit with love and a life commitment.

You can do it for a lot less than that, too. It's really a matter of deciding what's important and how the couple feels about it. Most of the high expenses come from parents and relatives trying to put on a show and/or meet unrealistic expectations.

Answer 2

What??!!??? No expensive wedding??? And crush every young girl in the world and her dreams go down the river? All her fairy tale visions of the most fabulous wedding ever down the drain? I think not. (smile) An expensive wedding is the commercial capital of the world's finest wedding planners, decorators, florists, cake makers, dress makers, rings and limosines. What in the world would all these businesses do? The wedding and how expensive it might be is totally up to the woman who is planning hers. That is a decision made by those people who are getting married. We could never interject a change in that. When you are young and in love, you think money is no object - unless your parents are rich. I'm 54 and about to go into my third. Believe you me, I am considering the court house, but my pastor would probably be very disappointed, so I am thinking smaller sized. Since both my parents are deceased and my family is small (his is only a little larger) only family and close friends need to be there. I'm thinking my apartment complex's Party room, light decorations (the room is wonderfully decorated already), him in a nice suit and me in a matching one, simple gold bands some recorded music, some "I do's " and some mingling and eating. I think the older you get, the more important other things become. The ceremony should be spiritual because it is a serious thing to marry someone you want to spend your life with - but spending crazy money - hey - I'd rather go on a trip.

Answer 3

Yeah - but hey - if I don't have to pay for it - I'll go for the fancy dinner and dance. But you're totally on target - like I was so jealous of these friends where they have tons of money and threw this fancy reception and ran off to my dream destination - HI - they came back gloating over the photos and how wonderful it was - what a joke - lasted about 6 years - it's like - can you guys please refund the gift I gave you? Like now I want to write on my wedding cards - I hope it lasts!!! - instead of a traditional congratulations - because it seems most all of them break up sooner or later. It's like why bother with the whoop de do - when it's the relationship that has to be solid - not the wedding day!

Answer 4

Yea, Lets take away people free agency shall we? Look, I'll be honest with you, I am the first person who would agree that people need to be a billion times less selfish and put more effort in to swallowing their pride. However we can not take other peoples free agency away. If I could have it my way no one would have sex before marriage and there would be no living together before marriage either. but I know that people are allowed to make there own choices. the best thing I can do is offer my opinion to them in hopes that it makes an impact. what your proposing the forcing it on everyone. I don't feel that is right. good idea, but I don't think it is right.

Answer 5

I think everyone is entitled to the type of wedding they want. They are the ones paying for it.
A court house wedding doesn't mean it's going to last any longer than an expensive wedding anyway. I was married in a court house, married for 20 years and still divorced. So what's you're point?

Answer 6

First of all, ninety six% of marriages do not fail, it is extra round 50%, and that is without reference to how much cash is worried. People who've "high-priced" earrings and "high-priced" weddings would possibly not do not forget the ones matters high-priced. Expensive is an excessively relative time period, for a few folks a individual making $50K a yr is rich, for others it is $250K. It's all relative to the way you seem at it. It's no longer any one's situation to pass judgement on how yet another individual or couple chooses the best way to spend their cash. If having an high-priced ring and enormous marriage ceremony is not predominant to you, then do not do it and positioned your cash in different places. If you desire it, and you've got the manner to do it, then why don't you? It does not imply that a couple who spends more cash on their marriage ceremony does not love every different simply up to the couple who've an excessively realistic courthouse rite. It additionally does not imply that the couple who've the realistic rite loves every different extra. Marriage is figure. I've been married nearly 21 years, and it is paintings. It does not topic in case you've obtained plenty of cash or slightly cash, you will have obtained to gain knowledge of to compromise, reside in combination, set normal objectives, and many others. I have a well marriage no longer considering the fact that my husband and I would possibly or would possibly not have plenty of cash, we've a well marriage considering the fact that we importance every different as participants, we help every different in our marriage and our objectives, and we find time for every different. Money concerns, however no longer how so much of it a pair has, it is how good that couple manages their cash.

Answer 7

I think weddings should be paid for by the bride and groom, no matter what the price of it. I think planning a wedding and budgeting for it, is a good first step as acting as a married couple. There will be compromises, stress and arguments and you will find out a lot about your partner.

I know, my wife and I planned our wedding together, I helped her find her wedding dress, a dress for her mother, and other things no guy should ever have to do. ;-)

Answer 8

No I don't but do whatever ya like. Because a wedding the next day doesn't give people time to figure out they don't need to be together or get the necessary premarital counseling that ALL couples should have.

Answer 9

No, don't like your idea at all. Regardless of the type of wedding day a couple plans, mature men and women ARE thinking of the marriage itself, and planning for it.
So sorry you have such a sad view about what marriage is; makes me feel really lucky!

Answer 10

no, i think thats crap!! if i wanted to spend a fortune on a wedding, thats my business. why should the government be in charge of something else? like making a law of the amount of a wedding? and for the 1 year anniversary, i want ot do whatever i want on that day. not have a reception then. thats crap too!