Ok here goes...we started off just hangin out then eventually we were together all the time and then a couple and it was the best time in my life. I ve never met someone that make me as happy as he did. And he was happy too. i new from the get- go i needed to stay away from himbecause i was fallen for him quick and i told him that but he didnt listen and kept comin to my town from his which was about an hour and a half away. and would come find me so like i said i feel for him hard and it was great for about a year until about a month ago when he had to go to court and was lookin at some jail time so i figured it just stressin him and it will pass over after it all over with. but it hasnt! it still could be the probation stuff! He keeps tellin me to move out. We also have a 4 month old baby together and that makes it hard to cuz he is the greatest dad. But i havent done ne thing wrong so why is he treatin me like **** and tellin me to move out all the time. he wont tell me what wrong
2007-05-27 19:05:29 · 11 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sounds as if he is stressed out. Give him some space. Don't constantly ask him questions. Just be there when he needs to talk, and to hold you at night. He may be worried about finances or something else too. Men get that way when they get worried about things. If he is not treating you any better in a month or so, tell that you are leaving until he starts respecting you.
2007-05-27 19:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion is ask yourself how does the males in his family treat the women. A lot of the time the apple does not fall far from the tree. I have also seen a lot of people that go from Dr. Jackal to Mr. Hide within a year. They cannot keep up the act and it usually breaks down. Then you are seeing the real person. My concern is that he got himself into enough trouble to go to jail. I would be concerned that whatever he was into could also cause trouble for you and the baby. I would personally run as fast as I could. Try to take yourself out of this. What would you tell someone? If you stay with him telling you to leave move on to verbal and then physical abuse? The thing is never say that he would never treat me that way or would do something to hurt me. You never know what is going on inside that head.
2007-05-28 02:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by mobeetiekid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he had not done anything for you, but to give you stress. I don't know, I think that when you find a good man, he doesn't do these kind of things. We, women have to be smarter so our kids won't suffer the consequences and/or follow our pattern. You have the right to be happy.Regardless of what he did, he is in a place where we don't suppose to be, ever! why is he? too late now I guess. He's asking you to move out..where?is he giving you financial help to do this? a better place?do you work? how will he protect you and the baby? trust me, you need lots of thousands to raise a kid , they don't eat love, would you leave everything you have for that? put things in a balance and you'll have your answer. A good man would never put you in these doubts... Good luck, friend.
2007-05-28 02:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is what happened kind of with me and my ex, except i have never been to jail, he is probably just not happy... he may say he is but is he really? he can always be a good dad with out you, it seems like your relationship feeds off drama, im not judging but next time he says go.... then go. see what happens, keep your cool do whats best for you and the baby first
2007-05-28 02:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by partly smart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should stay with someone who treats them like sh*t and verbally abuses them. I would leave, immediately, with the baby. Do you really want to put up with this for the rest of your life? He seems like a miserable person,and they say misery loves company. Leave now before you become angry and embittered too! You can be miserable and do bad all by yourself. Good luck hon!
2007-05-28 02:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Leia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he's faking his treatment towards you, for reasons like he may feel that his current situation makes him undeserving of your attention and that he may not really like it but he wants you to be happy with someone else who's more deserving of your love and affection. or he has really lost it, that feeling towards you. well i'd like to think that he still loves you and he's acting that way maybe he thinks eventually you may find someone else. anyway, if i were you, i'd still pay him a visit regularly and pretend myself that i'm there just as a 'friend'. i won't show much affection, ill just be civil towards him. until such time he has served his jail time ill just be like a "friend". maybe that is hard, and its hard to be patient but hopefully when he gets out of jail he will realize that you being there during the bad times is someone unworthy of letting go. goodluck.
2007-05-28 02:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mike C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are stupid, I'm sorry to say it but girls are stupid. A grown woman would not make stupid choices like this. Your a girl not a woman. Take your child and move back in with your parents. get away from this guy and if possible have him sign his parental rights away for this kid. Why do you girls go for these slime ball guys? I will never understand it. You have a choice who you will fall for. I'm just going to stop right here before my head explodes.
2007-05-28 02:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by gearnofear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a good daddy,give it time......sometimes the hardest times are after a baby is born.Sometimes we say things we don't mean.I would give him until baby's first birthday...ok....as long as Ur not being abused....give him time
2007-05-28 02:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by sweetdee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the main course of all this? if he aint telling you **** that's tells you probably his in to someone else. So please don't waste your precious tyme move on, it aint the end tha world!!! got it?
2007-05-28 02:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by henry m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a jerk...women get alot of jerks .. be strong ..move on..an someone better will come along
2007-05-28 02:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋