no i'm not tryin to become an adult. i've had a lot of **** to put up with in my life. i have a successful road ahead of me baby or no baby. i jus want to start my family and not make the mistakes my parents did. i'm goin to be the best mother 15 or not. i jus need advice on going about it.
2007-05-27 18:44:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
In the state of Texas once the perm hits the egg, you are considered a parent and therefore an adult. That being said, I have had several friends in high school whose mothers took them 2 counties over and forced them to have an abortion or be kicked out of the house and disowned. Be careful and make sure to get proper prenatal care for your sake and the baby. Best of luck to you.
2007-05-27 18:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do it. You do have most of the rights of a regular adult because you are suddenly the legal guardian of another human being, but I venture to guess you are hanging out with a crowd that is immature at heart. Do not expect any father to stick around, its wishful thinking. You would be wise to finish school and have a job. And if you think a child will be someone that loves you unconditionaly, you'd be wrong. I hear "I hate you", "I don't love you anymore", and "I don't want you anymore" all the time because my 6 year old is a stubborn little boy and when I tell him "no" I'm suddenly the worst mom ever. I can't wait for my baby to talk. You know all the mean things you've told your parents, you start hearing it the second your child knows how to talk and manipulate you. Please pursue your dreams, honey, don't screw up your life right now. You say you have a successful road ahead of you, then go and run. Kids aren't great companions in life, especially if you're all alone with them 24-7. Do what you have to, to start being successful before you end it with a baby. If you do get pregnant, then you better learn to ask for help and go through the hideous begging process that is the gauntlet known as the Department of Economic Security. Otherwise you'll never make it and you'll pull the same exact mistakes as your parents.
2007-05-28 02:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by blue25tulip 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on where you live. At 15 in the US, your child may very well be taken from you and placed in foster care if your parents or a relative do not accept responsibility for you and your child, since you are still considered a minor. I assume this is not what you had in mind.
You mentioned you have a successful road ahead of you. Don't you think it would be better to get a good job and be making good money first so that you could buy all the things the baby would need? Most parents want to give their kids everything that they never had, and that definitely takes money. The teenage years are the toughest. I sure am glad I don't have to relive mine...and I know my parents are! lol
If you still have the choice of being a mom right now or not, I would 'prepare' a bit more. It's just YOUR future you are going for. Make your plan and go for it!!
2007-05-28 01:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by MisMischievous 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there. I 'm sorry for the tough situation you are in. It's not an easy road ahead of you. I'm sure you have heard enough about your mistakes so I would like to commend you on your decision to keep your baby. Clearly, that is not the easiest choice. I also commend you on wanting to be a better parent that what you had. My advice to you is to read lots of books on parenting and related topics. You probably haven't ever had any roll models of parenting other than your own parents. You clearly want to do things differently. The best way to gain a different perspective is to learn from others. Psychology books can teach you so much about discipline, love, understanding and effective communication. You can also learn new healthy ways to cope with the stress of being a parent. Please visit the following link for more information about teen moms. I wish you the best!
http://teenmoms.ourfamily.com/
As far as your rights are concerned, they vary depending on the state in wich you reside.
For you people that say "i'm not going to help a child have a child." What's wrong with you? Did you never make a mistake as a teen? I bet your houses are glass just the same as everyone else! How is your comment helping? SHE'S ALREADY PREGNANT! Can't you think of anything helpful to say?
2007-05-28 01:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to help a child have a child...believe me, there is so much to do at your age, you don't want a baby holding you back. When all your friends are going to the mall and you don't have a baysitter and the father left because he realized he was too young and wanted nothing to do with you or the kid what next? You have to stay home with that child. Or what if they want to go to a party or you want to attend a friends birthday party and once again the fathers gone and you have no babysitter, poor you stuck in the house again cause you decided to have a child. I have been through more than you can imagine in my life(I'm 22) but I am not out having kids just for the hell of it! My boyfriend and I are in a stable relationship and have been together for over 4 years and have known each other for 9 years and TECHNICALLY we could afford to have a child right now but we are being respnsible...he is going back to school in January and then we will think about a baby. I'm 22 and make more money than you and I want a child also but I'm waiting! If I can wait so can you!
2007-05-28 01:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 15, you're too young to have a baby or even think about starting a family. At least finish high school and go to college so you can get a job that pays well enough to support a child. do you even know that it costs $4000 to pay for diapers for a child's first year? Where is that going to come from? Never mind an apartment, utilities, and groceries.
You don't have any rights and your ignorance shows why.
2007-05-28 01:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by Alice K 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Best advice. Don't be stupid!!!! Wait until you're financial and MATURE enough to handle a kid. You're a kid your self! I had my first daughter at 23, my second kid on the way I'll be 24 and still wish I waited longer to get my life going in the direct I WANT no the way that I HAVE to do now because of my daughter. I don't regret my daughter or this child at ALL, but I AT LEAST finished HIGH SCHOOL and COLLEGE. DOn't be stupid GROW UP yourself first and, GET MARRIED or at least be in a long term stable relationship.... Lord there's so much I could say but the though of some 15 y.o having a kid just aggrivates me
2007-05-28 01:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by walkinbyfaith7 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this but in most state you will have no rights and some states will place the baby in foster care if the parents are too young.
You really shouldnt even want to be pregnant at 15, trust me its not something you need.
2007-05-28 02:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by halfdemonrenilia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it really depends in which state you live, but you control everything that has to do for that baby, making sure the baby comes first and their well being comes before anything else. there are free lawyers you could contact at colleges or even from the city and you could find out anything you need to know. also you could contact your county's district attorney, usually free or very low costing. good luck
2007-05-28 01:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by partly smart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a kid as long as you can, once your a Mother its forever, The baby will have to come first. Which means a new pair of jeans for yourself no way you'll need diapers. So wait awhile and enjoy your freedom.
2007-05-28 02:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋