he wants his wife to work and make them a living I dont like it he is head of household. what would you do if this was your son in law?
2007-05-27 17:08:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would go and pack up my daughter and my grandchildren and bring them home with me. You should also get your daughter some counseling. No woman should be a doormat. After 26 years of stupidity, I finally figured it out.
2007-05-27 17:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by chaoskid 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I've been in the position where I was a stay at home dad and my wife worked. During the time when we were doing that, I was recovering from injuries sustained in a rollover accident that I was in while driving truck, and for quite a while was unable to work.
But his refusing to work I think sounds like lazyness, unless he's willing to be a househusband and take care of the kids and all the housework. As long as his wife is ok with it then I don't see anything wrong with it.
Personally I am working 2 jobs right now 1 full time and 1 part time job so my wife doesn't have to work right now, and also so she can go to school part time to get her criminal justice degree.
2007-05-28 00:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he refuse to work, or is this just a better financial decision. I know a girl who makes more as an engineer than her husband was making at a body shop, it made more sense for him to stay home...neither wanted to put their kids in daycare, so the situation works. However, if your son-in law refuses to work, and this doesn't sit right with your daughter, than maybe she needs to consider if he is just looking for a "free ride", in that case, she may be better off without him (one less mouth to feed) Also, if she's the bread winner, I think that makes her the Head of Household
2007-05-28 00:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by NightOwl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him that if he is not going to contribute to the household he should get out. If his wife can earn a living and take care of her family then she doesn't need this idiot.
2007-05-28 10:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Darla 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were my son-in-law, I would stay the heck out of it and let my daughter and her husband decide how to structure their household. If your daughter has a problem with the situation, she is an adult, and she has the right to request counseling, etc., right up to the right to divorce if she finds the situation completely untenable. Through all of this, my only role would be to be supportive of my daughter in her decisions about her own life, and to stay out of the middle of her marital relationship.
2007-05-28 00:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by nickdmd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some parents reverse roles, the husband takes care of the home (laundry, cooking, cleaning, kids, etc) while the woman works. But if there are no kids to tend to he should be working. Does your daughter mind? Some women would rather work than stay home, it is up to her and him really, not you. I know you care for your daughter but don't interfere, you will only make matters worse.
2007-05-28 00:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I would do, and what I would like to do are 2 different things.
If your daughter is happy with the arrangement, then we as mother in laws have to mind our own business. As much as it pains us to see.
If she comes to you, and complains then that is your chance to tell her your opinion. Tell her that she should tell him to get a job, or get out. Period!!!!!! Then I would give her all the emotional support she would need to help her get rid of her lazy free loader.
2007-05-28 00:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no real experience with things like that, but I think it is his responsibility. I consider myself slightly lacking morals sometimes, but I think that's just lazy, and cruel. Do you know if he will be doing all the housework, and looking after the children? Why does he want his wife to do that? Does he have a particular reason?
2007-05-28 00:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by thebritishfight 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cant tell your daughter what to do but you can express your feelings about this to her in a way that she still feels as if you arent trying to get in the way or to control thier lives. there is nothing you can do though except be supportive of her and her decision and if it comes back to hurt her which it probably will ( been there) just be there for her and dont tell her i told you so the best thing is bee supportive.
2007-05-28 00:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by tiggerluvnmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, there's nothing you can, or should, do to your son-in-law. This is something your daughter has to handle.
If she comes to you about it, you can discuss it with her; otherwise, don't meddle in their business.
This also means that you not support them, or give them money. So long as someone steps in to help them, he will never assume any responsibility.
2007-05-28 00:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋