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I have read articles about a new trend in which houses are being built with his and her master bedrooms!
As a mother and a wife, I so seldom find a moment alone. The thought of having my very own room as a sanctuary, to decorate as girly as I like and furnish in my own style, it just sounds about as close to heaven as I can get. I doubt I'd even sleep in there, but I would like to have my own place just the same. My TWO YEAR OLD has her own room, why not me!?
What are your thoughts?
2007-05-27 16:51:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Like you, I think it's nice for everyone to have a space they can call their own. People assume that when a husband and wife have separate rooms that they're having problems; my husband and I often sleep in separate rooms and some of our friends figured that meant our sex life was suffering. Quite the opposite. I think the trend makes sense.
2007-05-27 17:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by Urlacher Fan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is brilliant! I have had my own room for a few years now. My husband has a totally different sleeping pattern to me, snores very loudly, and loves a lot of heavy bedding, and I like very minimal bedding, just a sheet does me fine, and his snoring drives me MAD! We do spend a lot of time in each others rooms, but I have been able to decorate my room the way I wanted to, so that it has become a really calm and comforting room for me to be in. Actually, even my husband thinks my bedroom is great! I was only able to have my own room once the children had left, otherwise I would have had it many years ago. I think everyone wants, and needs, their own little sanctuary!
2007-05-27 20:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If people actually think this way/agree to this, that is very sad. One of the many benefits of being married is having your wife keep you company and spend time with you, including sleeping next to you and keeping you company through the night. A woman who doesn't want to do that is really just a roommate, so if you want a roommate then get a roommate, but don't delude yourself that it's a normal/healthy marriage to live this way.
2016-04-01 00:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I need some space, I just go for a long walk. I wouldn't want a separate bedroom from my husband, I hate sleeping alone. If some couples prefer to have separate bedrooms I don't see anything wrong with it as long as both agree to it.
2007-05-27 17:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by redhairedgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a married guy, I'd love to actually have a garage that could be my place to get away. But if my wife and I bought a house and had the rooms for it and she wanted a room just for herself I'd let her have one. Wouldn't nessesarily have to be a bedroom, but if she wanted a room where she could go to crochet I'd have no problem with it.
Because I think we all need to be able to get away from the stresses we all have and just have time alone to relax.
2007-05-27 17:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, married people should not have separate bedrooms. Part of the package about being married, is sleeping together. Unless there is a medical reason--sickness, etc.-- this is the only place for two people to have the privacy and intimacy they need and deserve.
2007-05-27 17:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What matters about marriage is sharing your lives, experiences, responsibilities and learning to compromise. If you and your husband can do this and feel comfortable doing it, by all means, why not? Have separate room, have fun! What matters is that it doesn't hurt your marriage, which it probably doesn't and you get some me time. I've done this before, temporarily, when I was pregnant, I slept so well.
2007-05-27 17:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's sad, and means there's not much of a marriage. Intimacy in a marriage is of much importance, and that doesn't mean just sex. There's just something about being together in bed after a long, hard day.... We've even not "upgrated" to a queen or king bed, as a lot of couples have, because in a double bed, we are always entwined in each other!
2007-05-28 00:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whats the point of reverting back to childhood? try and find something thta you and your husband can agree on as far as decorating goes and alone time even if you had your own room how long do you think it would take before one of the kids would be in there bugging you anyways and your husband too men and children always need their mommy or their wife having time alone is just a fantasy anyways lol.
2007-05-27 16:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I had to do this due to his snoring. We were not getting any sleep and our careers were suffering. I don't like it at all. It feels as though we have lost some of our intimacy, our closeness. I do not recommend it. You are a couple, a team. You need this time together.
2007-05-27 17:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by DD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋