I had this "friend" who I seemed to need alot of help. She actually sucked the life out of me but I felt that she really needed help. I have finally gotten her out of my life by ignoring her yet I find that I am now really resentful because she took up so much of my time! She was always having relationship problems with different guys. She was very manipulative and knew how to get me to answer her emails or call her. I've finally gotten her to stop bugging me.
What's a good philosophy to adhere to so I don't waste time on resenting her??
2007-05-27 16:14:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've had a similar situation with a friend in the past. Don't resent the time you spent. Look at it as a learning experience. From my experience, I realized that I was a great friend who did everything for her, but realized that I could not make her change her life. You can only do so much for people. I know that it is not much of a friendship when the drama becomes so exhausting. Move on and make new friendships. Realize that people come and go in life. We may also regret some of the decisions that we made. But if we did not make these mistakes or meet certain people, we would learn nothing.
2007-05-27 16:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Angrygirl5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done the same thing. I was just furious that i had wasted so much time on someone that was selfishly draining me the whole time. Its a nasty feeling.. bitterness... I dont' like it.. I realized though that NOTHING is wasted, all the bad and the good has helped mold me into who I am. The things I've learned will help me in SO many ways. My theory is, remember the good, accept the bad, do what's best for you because if you don't take care of you you are useless to everyone around you, if you do those things, just let go of the past. At least you put an effort into helping her. During that time you probably did some things that will stick with her forever. Those things may make her change and may keep her from treating more people like she did you. even if it hasn't sunk in her head yet, it will one day. Sometimes we meet people and gain nothing or gain something bad from the relationship, in those times I believe that's when the other person got the sweet end of the deal. I dunno... makes sense in my head. Good luck. SMILE!
2007-05-27 23:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by J C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't go back and change the past... If this was the worst thing that ever happened in your past that you have to resent , then you are a couple steps ahead of the rest of us. ...In a way she is still controlling your life by making you resent time spent with her. So, in a way, you are still wasting your time. Just let it go.
2007-05-27 23:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Leia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say is that yea she might have been a waist of time but you did a good thing in trying 2 help her out. i know what thats like:/ i spent so much time with my bestfriend & i was there 4 him so much & he ended up hattin me bcuz i turned him down but i guess thats life...you'll find a friend who wont suck da life out of you & some1 who will be there 4 you. so yea thats all i got 2 say:)
2007-05-27 23:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by ***Chula*** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is like driving; if you're constantly looking backwards, you'll probably crash.
Stop thinking about the past and move on!
Good luck :)
2007-05-27 23:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take responsiblity for your behavior.
you made a mistake.
you chose to spend your time that way, she didn't really "make" you.
try to forgive yourself for making bad judgments.
2007-05-27 23:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get another girl inur head i'm a girl but i'm taken so u shuold look up for another girl
2007-05-27 23:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Maria del Carmen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋