Why do girls need the last word? What is it and how do you trump it?

Answer 1

My math teacher, who happens to be a male, says that girls tend to say "Whatever" to stop an argument. To stop it, you mimic the girl and say "whatever". She will result most likely in a tempered mood.

Answer 2

My oh my that is a very interesting question. I don't think getting the last word is a wholly girl thing but sometimes it may seem so.

My wife, my daughter, and my boss (female) are going to get the last word in no matter what. Now I want you to know that I have nothing but the very highest esteem for these three women. So I choose not to trump it. I just let them have the last word and do what ever I want to do.

But if I did want to trump the last word I would do so by saying "I have heard enough. I do not want to dwell on this any longer. I am moving on to something more productive. I suggest you do the same". And then exit the subject and go to something else quickly.

Answer 3

You answered the first question in your second question.

If talk, conversation or an argument is considered a game, that means that it's not about what you're talking or arguing, but it's about who wins, then just about anyone would either get out of the game or want to win it. A person would immediately feel if the discussion, talk were in good faith or bad faith.

Good faith is that I respect you, and I'm not playing games with you, and I'm just wanting to figure this out, not win anything, prove who's smarter, better, more educated, et cetera.

So, if a "girl" likes you, and it's that kind of thing, and she doesn't want to leave, then she'll take it to the finish--for the very reason that you, by your own admission above, have made conversation or arguing a game to be won.

A good argument is never about the people arguing. If it's in good faith, the argument is about issues, facts, ideas, and it is good for both people, because both learn, and no one gets hurt--no one is thought of as less-than for being correct or not.

The other thing to take in is the fact that women are still second-class citizens. It's still a world of white-male entitlement, and the oppressed are naturally more sensitive to "losing," hence the desire to "win," if only by having "the last word."

(So it's up to you to make sure that you're not making a legitimate disagreement into a win or lose situation. Capeche?)

Answer 4

When men argue, they generally look at the exact words that a person is saying, intellectually analyze them, and then provide an appropriate answer. When women argue, they try to find words that are the most important in relation to how they think that you are feeling, they also are looking at your body language and tone of voice to determine how you feel about them. Women are frustrated that you do not understand how they feel, men are frustrated because you do not understand what they mean. This is why (to men) women seem illogical - it is because they are not trying to prove a point, but to get their feelings across. Both feel like they are argueing against a brick wall.

But the funny thing is that both these are irrelevant things to try and argue - who understands "my intellect" or who understands "my feelings" - the underlying current to all arguments are two people trying to make themselves feel more substantial in front of each other.

The best advice is to let the argument go for the time being and realise that apologising to a woman will be interpreted as "I’m sorry" rather than "yes, I was wrong". When you are in a good mood, try to nicely explain the same point to her that you were trying to explain before - she will most likely understand you intellectually when she knows you are saying it while in a good mood. Women can easily accept an intellectual opinion when they know you have a positive attitude. In this way you actually get your point across that you were trying in vain to get across before - and you don't harm the relationship as much. This way you win the argument because you got her to agree with you, and she won because you acknowledged how she felt.

BUT - if you do feel a bit spiteful, if you really want to annoy them....then you must see whether the girl is trying to be intellectual to hide her emotional nature. So turn the tables - when she argues an intellectual point, you say "i know that you are feeling xxxx, and im sorry i made you feel that way." In this way you are destroying the barrier that she has put up for you to try and get to her feelings (if she is defending them), you dont fall for the bait and try to intellectually respond to her statement. Focus on getting her to reveal her feelings of vulnerability, and usually all logic will fall apart, and you can move in for the kill and assert your intellectual viewpoint while the defenses are down. BUT you will be in for a shock because you will end up making her feel really really upset. You would have won, but you won't feel good about it.

Please note: If a woman asked the same question about men, then i would tell her how to get to a man as well...I don't take sides in this war!

Humans are a complex species indeed...

Answer 5

They need it for the same reason guys do at times (prove a point, get the statement across and stick, ego, etc).

What is it?
The word itself - whichever she chooses.

What is it?
First sentence above.

How to trump - silence... with a look on your face as if she has a point, with a little bit of offense taken. Some humble pie, on your part, will get them thinking... they'll come to their senses... maybe eat it right out of your hands and onto your lap!

Answer 6

" For which an eloquence that aims to vex,
With native tropes of anger arms the sex."

-- Parnell

///////////

The writer Maria Edgeworth (1768-1849) was noted for among other things her penchant for writing as regards women amid a man's world, about manners, mores, and gender. She once quipped, " 'unreasonable' arguments become a logical weapon for a woman to use."

Read her 18th Century piece titled...
An Essay on the Noble Science of Self-Justification.

Here you observe a woman who highly honored her father.
The eldest of several siblings, he doted on her; and she, on him.

The essay above affects to say what women today dare to say in two words -- " Oh well..." But observe how Edgeworth puts this -- clever, brilliant, as only I believe a woman could, that is, one who was so honed by a comprehensive, loving father and therewith, who appeared to know men in a matter-of-factly way. There evidences somewhat male bearing therein the essay I feel that derives from such affable terms with her father.

Bear in mind, this is 200 years ago. And we do observe from this essay, some things are classical: they shall not really change.

Answer 7

what on earth is this question?

girls don't always need the last word. i really don't like how you completely generalized. maybe some girls do, but trust me, so do some guys.

and trump it? i don't even get why you're asking, sorry. um yeah, no. i think you need to relax buddy. if you really wanna know, go ask the donald, i guess.

Answer 8

Although I understand your frustration I also know alot of men who refuse to allow me the last word. Like my son for example, he always, since he learned how to speak sentences he has had to have the last word. haha I think it's for the same reason we who do not get that want it.

Answer 9

Why? Because we are superior to men! Just kidding, it is just because we are girls and girls need to feel that they are in control. You can't "trump it" just go along with flow. :(

Answer 10

this also applies to men too, not just women.

the problem is that no one ever wants to accept defeat or to give in even when they are wrong.

I always let it just stop and say see ya