My Parents?

Question

My Parents dont trust me at all. I have never done ANYTHING that would cause that. A couple nights ago i wanted to have a camp out with my friend in her bakcyard but when my mom found out my friends little brother and his friend was going to be there she made me come right home. My parents are being jerks. I hate it. I can never do anything. Why are they like this? I know the , its not that they dont trust you its that they dont trust other people and the they are just trying to protect you theories but i think there is more to it than that.

Answer 1

as a mom, and a former teenager, youre right, they dont trut other people. and I never understood this when I was younger because my mom never let me spen the night at any of my friends house with out her going to the house, meeting her parents, and then thinking about it for what felt like forever.

dont present yourself to them as a kid having a tantrum. Explain to them that you were really mad at the decision that was made about you having to come homw just because your girls brother was there. tell them that you felt that that was a biased judgement call, and that they could have at least allowed you to have some say in the matter. tell them that you are mature enough to handle this kind of situation, that your girls were there and there was no way that anything would have happend. tell them that you are a young adult and should be treated as so, and that you can handle camping with your friends.
good luck with the talk. and try not to talk back, watch your tone, and be cool, calm and collective when you are talking with them, this always scores browine points with parents.

Answer 2

Maybe it's not that they don't trust You, it's that they don't trust the whole situation and believe it isn't safe. I'm not sure I'd be excited about a co-ed camp out situation, even if I completely trusted my daughter. If I didn't know the brother & his friend, I think I might have done the same thing. What if they played a trick on you & your friend at night? I'm afriad I can imagine all Kinds of things they could do which might not only ruin your time with your friend, but could scar you for life!

Answer 3

I don't know how old you are, butI think a lot of parents have a hard time realizing their child is growing up. I am not a parent, but I'm sure it's scary to let your child do anything for the first time. I'm not totally siding with your parents. Give it a little time. Maybe they will loosen up a little in the future. The more you do the right thing when the given the opportunity, the more trust they will have in you. Hang in there!

Answer 4

Hi I wanted to answer your question (I'm 12 btw). I think that parents are strict not because they don't trust you...maybe it is something that they went through in their life (that was bad) because they had to much freedom. My mom is not strict at all but I know that my grandma (her mom) was very strict on her when she was young. Try to have a real open and honest talk with your parents about how you feel trapped, and if you never did anything for them not to trust you, then you should be given a chance to do all the things other kids get to do. Tell them that you just want to have a bit of fun!

Answer 5

i had the same problem

i dont drink , do drugs, or sleep around

its better now that i am in college... but i missed out on a lot in hs bc i had a 9:00 curfew

i didnt know why my dad didnt trust me and i still dont... but he just didnt

it made me scared to ask him if i can go do something... but i kinda got to the point where i just left notes and said where i was and a number he could reach me at...
after a while he let up a bit and was like "ok i know u arent doin anything wrong... just be careful"

im not saying go do that right away... do it gradually.. just say "here is the number u can reach me at.. this is who i am with..." and then start leaving notes...
u know ur parents better than i do...

good luck :)

Answer 6

Be glad your not me!

As for help.... Talk to them. Tell them you don't know why they are doing this to you, and say it VERY CALM!!!! If they get mad, it starts a ripple effect. Dad- gets mad - Mom- yells- you- yells and mad. If this happenes, stay calm. I have a friend whose mom is a psycic, (i don't believe in that stuff but ya) and when this happens , picture a mirror, and reflect the meanness back.

One you talk, try comprimising. If they only want you do do ceirtain types of things, try and talk about expanding the limits. As for the guy thing, i totally understand. When the guy stays over, get OUT OF THERE!!! No offense or anything..

Hope I helped!!

Chrissy

Answer 7

Hate to say it but when you're a parent you'll understand. Thanks to shows like Maury, some parents are afriad their daughter will turn out like that. Unfortunately it's something you're going to have to get used to. To be honest if I were your parent's I would have worried too. I don't think you should have gone back home. If you have shown that you are trust worthy your parents should reward you for that.

Answer 8

sometimes parents are just like that, dont feel bad, my mum is like that too, but as u get older u will in time earn more trust nd so on hope this helped

Answer 9

They are just worried about you sweetie. When you are older and you have kids you will understand I promise. I felt the same way when I was younger and now that I have kids I'm starting to understand it.

Answer 10

You need to have a little chat with your parents. Tell them that you think you are responsible and old enough. Speak carefully but speak for what you think is right.