Married all most 14 years, one child, husband desided he didn't want to be w/ us cause I'm all ways sick.

Question

I'm disabled and bad heath, With a great kid, how could he walk away from us? What Kind of help can I get, I only get 600.00 to live on.

Answer 1

You need to immediately file for divorce, and child support. In most states there is a unfortunate wait period of 33 days, after the filing date before support can be enforced.
Good luck, and take care.

Answer 2

If you're disabled by Social Security standards, you and your child are eligible to recieve SSI (only if you can't work). You can get medicaid as a low income, single mother and you're entitled to to support in the form of child support and alimony if you have primary custody of the child.

I'm sorry, but being disabled or having a great kid doesn't necessarily make a marriage worth staying in. If your husband doesn't love you anymore, don't try and hold on to that. Let him part ways, and make sure he helps you out. If you are too disabled to care for your child, give him to the ex the majority of the time. Make sure the child is taken care of, always the top priority.

Good luck, I'm sorry you're going through this, but you'll be taken care of :)

Answer 3

Sorry to hear this happened to you. That really sucks but it's impossible to control other people so you just need to deal with being on your own at this point. He'll get what he deserves in the end. Can you get any child support from him? If you can't afford an attorney, look for a paralegal service (you can look in the yellow pages) and they are really cheap but should be able to help you. Good luck and if you ever need a friend, feel free to email me at [e-mail].

Answer 4

Your husband is being awful. I am sorry he is being that way and sorry that you are ill.

He will have to pay child support. However, depending upon what state you live in, there are many benefits available to single mothers. You should be able to get food stamps, medical care for your daughter and perhaps other financial help. Start checking out these things now.

Answer 5

I am so sorry to hear that. The same thing happened to my mother-in-law except she was with her husband over 23 years. Divorce him quick and file for child support and alimony if possible. Check with your state department of human services to see what is available. I would also check with the social security/disability office.

Answer 6

You could to the Dept of human services apply for food stamp and for child support. I suggest this because of you limited income. I do not know if you own or rent or what your personal situation is or how old is your husband is or what kind of income he has coming in. But I believe that child support is 15% of his income and by possibly putting child support your child might be eligible for medicaid or other gov insurance programs. When you go to apply for assistance ask what other programs they may have in your area because it can vary state to state.

Answer 7

If you were married for 14 years -take him for everything you can get. Get a lawyer if you can, ask for alimony and child support.

What a creep to run out on you when you are ill.
In the mean time you can get help from AFDC, also food stamps and medicaid should be available to you.

Answer 8

I'm sorry about your situation. It's impossible to know what was going through his head. There are lawyers who will work with women in your situation to help get you what you need. If you have a church or other organization that you belong to, they can probably put you in touch with someone in your area. If not, contact a women's shelter and they can direct you in the right direction. In any case, you should be receiving support from your ex.

Answer 9

let me say first that i am sorry u are sick . you can't help it your sick so try and not worry , i know it hard not to but warren wont help your sickness any or help you get on your feet to do the things you have to do. now first off divorce the sorry A--hole you are married to . when you file for the divorce get him for child support and alimony that with your disability check should help you to get a place you can afford and raise your son. did he forget the vols he said when you to got married ? in sickness or in health! i have been married 24 yrs my wife has cancer but i would NEVER leave her when she needs me the most. you may not want to but i think you should take this creep for all you can get . not only for your self but for your son and what he needs.

Answer 10

What happened to in sickness and health, guess he forgot his vows. Your better off, get a lawyer and take him to the cleaners, with you health problems and how long you have been married and a child, you stand a good chance of doing that. He will wish he had felt different, one day he will need someone to take care of him, what goes around comes around. I am waiting for my soon to ex to get what's coming to him for walking out after 30 years for his girlfriend. Good Luck to us both!!