She's married and I'm single, but I can't stop thinking about how pretty and how sweet she is. I won't act on my crush but is it wrong for me to keep thinking & fantasizing about her? How can I stop?
2007-05-27 13:50:50 · 81 answers · asked by Florida-Fan1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Crushes are okay, but this one in particular isn't healthy. She's married. Taken. Not single. You are though, in fact, single. Don't waste your time here... Find yourself a single woman. = ) You will find a pretty and sweet woman that will want to be all yours! Doesn't that sound much better?
2007-06-04 12:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong to have a crush on her. If your attracted to her you can't change how you feel. What you need to do is not act on it. Some husbands are insanely jealous and that could be a bad thing for you. Go ahead and think about her and fantasize about her, but then go get a real girl friend , a single
non married woman.
2007-06-02 17:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Liviyaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong for you to have a crush. People have lots of crushes on lots of people. However, recognize her for what you like about her pretty and sweet. Recognize that you are friends and be supportive of her, but do not keep fantasizing about her - that is not good. Get involved with other people you know who are single and your age or in your area. Go do things with them. If you were married and a man had a crush on your wife, how would you feel? (prolly proud; ,maybe jealous; maybe laugh about it) but, how would you feel if he acted on it? Keep in mind that she is married, so you shouldn't flirt with her, or fantasize etc. it just isn't healthy.
2007-05-27 13:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by CandiApple 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it's wrong to have a crush on any woman. Acting on your crush is another thing. Have you ever had a crush on an unavailable person before? Is this a pattern for you in any way?
It's not proper to pursue those feelings for her out of respect for her current committment. As for admiring lovely women, that's rather natural for anyone who appreciates women.
Give it time, it's likely to stop. Unless of course you keep thinking of her when you ought to think of other things. It will be easier to get over her eventually if you stop adding fuel to the fire, so to speak. Find an alternative fantasy and stop reinforcing the fact you find her attractive.
2007-06-03 13:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by reeksofhoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to have a crush it's part of life you get to know someone and you like the qualities in that person you've already said you know it's bad to act upon those feelings so that's a good thing! As for the how to stop well ppl really cant control their feelings but you can move on and find someone who has the qualities you like in her such as sweet and pretty i'm sure you'll find someone good luck
2007-05-27 14:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Amber A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Friendship is fine, and mostly harmless, but if you have a crush, you might be tempted to act on it, and, if she has a moment of weakness, or you're the type who spends days or weeks wearing her down, you'll only hurt her.
So, go out and find a girlfriend, and spend some time away from your crush. Falling in love will be a wonderful way to let you forget the crush.
BTW, the reason its called a crush... is because of how you feel when the object of the crush wont return your emotions. Crushed.
2007-05-27 13:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by KGene1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crushes are normal, everybody gets them. It is wrong to act on that, and it would be unfair to her to try to take advantage of her. As long as you don't do anything illegal, and you don't harass or intimidate her, you should be able to daydream all you want. Try to keep it clean though.
If you give it time, it will run it's course and you will move on. Don't be creepy and don't obsess, but understand that we've all been there, whether it was a teacher or some neighborhood woman. Be classy though with her, and it will help you later when the right woman comes.
2007-05-27 13:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by jakers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people on here will probably say yes but I disagree. If you are just daydreaming and not acting inappropriately who is getting hurt? In the past I have had crushes because I was scared to death to get hurt again and date or there was just nothing on the horizon. Sometimes reality sucks and having a nice fantasy world is a getaway. As long as you realize what it is and don't get hurt in the end and don't do anything to freak her out, I don't see the harm in it. But keep looking for that one, you will find her.
2007-06-02 12:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong.
Get yourself an attractive girlfriend and soon you will learn to appreciate the married woman the way you would if you had a sweet and pretty sister. Don't lust after another man's wife. Respect the sanctity of marriage and move on with a girl of your own. Once you get into a passionate relationship of your own, you will look back and laugh at these days.
Good luck to you.
2007-05-27 13:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by ROSE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well depends on how you look at it. In your case it doesn't really matter because you said yourself you are not going to act on it. For argument sake lets say you would. The thing that I would think about is her happiness. If you know for a fact that she would be happier with you, it might be worth thinking about. If you come out and tell her you love her and that throws her life into turmoil, you should probably not act on it. The chances on the second scenario happening is much more likely.
2007-05-27 13:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jocelyn S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋