Well long story cut short, my parents don't like my girlfriend because she's short and because she's not a US citizen. She is like an inch shorter than my mom. In comparison to me, she is an inch below to an inch above my shoulder. My parents are telling me to break up with her because of her height, her being one year older than me (I'm 19, shes 20), and her not being a US citizen. What am I to do :(?
2007-05-27 13:09:11 · 19 answers · asked by dunno d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know they are stupid reasons. All my friends say the samething. But they kind of are teh main reasons. My parents feel that her being short, we'll look weird out in public and it'll be embarrassing, which is really messed up :( I'm like 5'8" and she's like i dunno, 5'1"-5'3". And because she's short, my parents think that she'll be troublesome and everything. Also, her not being a US citizen makes them think she's after my green card and that it'll be really troublesome in the future. I'm asian so I can understand where they're coming from because I'm their only child and stuff. They think in the traditional sense and even though I tell them times are changing, they still stick to what they think. My girlfriend is such a nice person and I can't say anything bad about her because...she hasn't or doesn't have anything that I can complain about. Thanks for are your help so far. More would be greatly appreciated :)
2007-05-27 13:45:45 · update #1
Tell 'em where to stick it.
You're an adult and so is she.
Do her parents like you?
2007-05-27 13:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, come on, there has to be more to it than that.
My son just broke up with his girlfriend. The list of problems in that relationship cover four sheets of yellow legal paper, in small print.
Parents generally want their children to be happy. If you notice the short foreign woman sizing up the silverware, china, or asking questions about your mothers jewelry (price, quality, where does she keep it) then you may have a better idea as to why she is not for you.
2007-05-27 20:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mcgranny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like they are using 2 silly reasons to hide the real reasons they dont' like her. It would be important to see if they will tell you what it is about her they don't like and tell them you don't have to agree, but you would appreciate the "opinion" and that it is just that opinion unless they want to back it up with facts and I am 56 not 16
2007-05-27 20:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by I Love Jesus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look kid I'll be honest with you, a couple years ago we went through the exact same thing with one of my sons . . .
listen to your parents, You don't understand,you may think you do but you don't, to see someone you love very much as your parents love you, make the biggest mistake of his life right in front of you, knowing it's gonna be a rough go for him is heart breaking. Your parents are NOT against you, they are more experienced in life and can see things coming that you can't. BELIEVE ME, please, it's not her height it's much bigger than that. Trust you parents.
2007-05-27 20:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to follow your own heart. If you really like this girl then stick with her. That is a stupid reason for them to dislike her though especially if she hasn't given them a REAL reason not to dislike her. Don't let someone pick your mate for you! Sit them down and tell them that you really like her and her height doesn't matter because you like her for her!
2007-05-27 20:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're fine. If you really care about her then you shouldn't have to.
And you're 19! They have no right to tell you what to do.
Maybe you should try to change your parents opinions and values. They're ignorant. The world is changing.
2007-05-27 20:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm. I could sit here and say you're old enough to decide for yourself but my parents don't like my boyfriend, and i'm 23. So. I think you have to decide if it is important that you date someone that your parents like and you like, or if you feel you can have a good, healthy relationship otherwise.
2007-05-27 20:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by CandiApple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult so you can date who you want to date. You parents telling you to dump her because of her height is just stupid.
2007-05-27 20:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by VMSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her height shouldn't matter & her age either. Its the way you feel about her. Your parents have no say so in the matter. Your parents should be happy for you.I wish u luck with your situation..Good Luck! :)
2007-05-27 20:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by Amoriaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19. You are a LEGAL ADULT now. You dont need mommy and daddy telling you who to date. Make these decisions for yourself.
Your parents sound strange.
2007-05-27 20:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always expect/ hope our parents will support us, but if they don't and it's something you really want, learn to say "who cares?"
Both reasons you gave are really stupid. I would ignore them and continue dating her. Let them know that those reasons are ignorant and no reason for you to let her go. Stick with it...they may come around later.
2007-05-27 20:16:26 · answer #11 · answered by Ms.Cosha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋