i want to know what most married people do together on the weekends... it seems as though i spend my weekends cleaning and waiting around for when his friends aren't on the x-box live so he can spend time with me..... this is NOT how i envisioned my married life!
2007-05-27 11:06:17 · 25 answers · asked by User Name 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow..... Always: you sound like you've done that a time or two before, lol!
2007-05-27 11:24:46 · update #1
DAWNB: i did NOT marry the wrong man! i was just unaware of this hobby he had. he didn't have an x-box until AFTER we got married. if you're not going to offer suggestions then don't answer the question. but DO NOT criticize a marrige you know NOTHING about. he has an annoying hobby, he's not a bad husband.
2007-05-27 12:42:28 · update #2
Depending on what you like to do is what you do for the weekend. If he likes to play on his xbox, fine, work it out where one day in the weekend you have to yourself to spend time for your needs, and the other day, try to plan ahead, do something together, go on a date, go to the zoo, have a nice picnic in a quite park, go hiking together, that way it is reasonable. He gets time for himself and you get time with him. It's as important to spend time together as ti is to spend it apart. This way he can't really complain because it's a compromise, and just remind him that that is part of a working marriage, learning to compromise.Good luck.
2007-05-27 11:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu are living the "normal" married life. After all, you are picking up after an oblivious husband and his friends while they zone out in front of the tv.
You could become a nag but that wouldn't work. Here's what you do: next weekend, disappear from the house and do something fun without him. Call friends if you don't want to do it alone. Do this without warning and don't tell him where you are going or when you'll return. When you return, do not volunteer details about your activities. Do this once a week every week.
Worse case scenario: you'll end up having fun experiences with a totally different set of people. Best case scenario: your video game addicted husband will stop taking your presence at home for granted and will VOLUNTARILY turn off the x-box. Good luck.
2007-05-27 11:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We're not normal by any means, but the weekends mean spending as much time as possible together - us as a couple, and with our family. The time is really precious, because he works at a very physically demanding job, and during the week he's blasted at the end of each work day, so the evening time is pretty much recovery time for him.
You just seem to have an immature dude who's not realizing how much his time spent gaming is affecting your relationship. Plus, if he's with his guy buddies instead of you - that's a huge red flag for you.
Hope you can find some way to talk to him about this and resolve it. LOTS of people would buy a secondhand xbox!
2007-05-28 00:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one, but I supsect that "normal" married couples don't have lives that revolve around the x-box, for either him or her. From the demographics of most gamers, I suspect that your husband is probably young, and also a bit immature. It sounds that he hasn't clued into the fact that a marriage, ideally, is also about companionship. Maybe you should point it out to him--that you're there to be more than just room-mates who happen to sleep in the same bed. I suspect that it would be best to do this gently, and to be sneaky--e.g., find some activity that he might be interested in enough to tear himself from the xbox that you can also enjoy or at least tolerate, and suggest that you both try that out. You might want to talk with some friends about how to handle this.
2007-05-27 11:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he's really tired. Might be some worries added since you are pregnant, in terms of responsibilities he has financially, etc. If you want sex, don't ask him because if he is tired he will most likely say "no" and end of the story. Just initiate it yourself, as many times as it takes for you to be satisfied. Men respond really well to surprise BJs so that can be a sure thing with your husband.
2016-05-19 02:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh... You married a gamer! I'm very, very sorry, but unless you two have a serious heart-to-heart on his gaming issues (specifically, the fact that he spends more time playing X-Box than with you), he will continue with what he's been doing.
What did you two do together BEFORE you were married? Freshen life up a bit and find a hobby you both enjoy.
2007-05-27 11:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sangria 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We spend a lot of time at home. He watches a lot of tv and I'm on the computer, but we makes time for each other - watch movies together, clean house, go out for a drive, lay around and talk. Some times we plan a get-away weekend.
2007-05-27 11:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have found every couple is different. My husband likes to play on his PS3 a lot . I will play on my computer or read a book. But we try to do something together every Saturday however it does not always work out. I took up golfing because he enjoys it and it seemed like it would be fun! Try to find something you both enjoy doing together and make plans to spend a part of the weekend on this but it is not fair to ask him to completely give up something he enjoys. He will only end up resenting you!
2007-05-27 11:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i do things out of the blue.. how about having a picnic in the park, go to a movie, dinner.. if u have kids.. go to the zoo or museum. Bike riding is also fun. If its cold.. u can cuddle up and watch a good movie or make love.. I think Im doing something right.. been married 16 years and he still loves me.. tell ur husband that u will get rid of his xbox if he doesnt start paying attention or ur attention will be going some place else..
2007-05-27 11:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by its not that serious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You married a boy not a man and you knew it before you married him. You didn't ask the important questions to find out if he even was on the same page as you and obviously he was not and won't be for years. If you can't talk to him about this and resolve it, then look at this as your life if you are willing to wait until he grows up. Please don't introduce children into this situation. You will be even more mired down while he plays his life away. This is not a typical married life. Adults plan their life together. Boys do what they want. Make a decision as to how you want to go further. Sorry you chose wrong.
2007-05-27 11:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋