ok hubby and i have seprate beds he says i snore to loud but i dont think thats the reason..and when we have sex its all about him being plzed and never me.yesterday i plzed him and once he was finished he got up and told me to do myself and left the room . we hardly ever do anything and i have a high sex drive.then last night kids were gone to there nan's we were alone so i tried getting him in the mood but he pushed me away.its like this all the time. not once or twice.i also told him last night i was cutting him off from sex he said like f**k .and if i say no to him about sex he gets pissed with me.
2007-05-27 10:40:57 · 22 answers · asked by browneyez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm not talkin to him now and i feel like leaving him but donno cause we have children
2007-05-27 10:46:47 · update #1
I'm not even sure what to say. I'm not sure used is the word that comes to mind more than degraded and useless to someone that is acting like a rutting pig. I'd try talking to him again to see if he's willing to change. If he's not I'm sorry honey there aren't very many options left at that point. And I can't tell you which one of those to pick.
2007-05-27 10:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel very used by him if he did that. My husband went through that "I'll get it when I want it, how I want it and ONLY when I want it!" stage for a while. So I put my foot down. I told him that this was a partnership not a dictatorship! And that he needed to be more considerate of my feelings. I have a very high sex drive as well. I would be devistated if I pleasured him and he told me to finish myself and he left the room! Good luck with everything!
2007-05-27 17:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Drea Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your own sake, leave him now. The kids will be better off. Trust me. I stayed in a marriage for 15yrs thinking about the kids and for what? It has hurt the kids immensely and it's hurt me because of this. This man does not respect or care about you. The longer you stay the worse off you and your children be. This is NOT your fault. Don't let this damage your self esteem. Your children don't need this around them no matter what. I wish you the best of luck. Take care.
2007-05-27 18:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that use to happen to me all the time for about 6 years I put up with that only sex on saturday or sunday, same position and when he was done I was out of luck. It hurt my feelings so bad cause I kept thinking there was something wrong with me but finally the light came on and I realized it was his problem, so I left and am now getting a divorce, girl you only live once your husband is narcasistic, they will never change it is always gonna be about him.
2007-05-27 17:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by mary p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be furious. You're not his toy. He obviously doesn't care about you that much. I can't tell you to leave him since i don't know what the rest of the relationship looks like, but from my point of view, leave him and don't look back. Think about if you want to live with that for the rest of your life. You have to do something for yourself. Find a man that will treat you right and that will please you the way you want to be pleased. Good Luck.
2007-05-27 18:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by K9Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean for real not trying to be funny nor mean this is a question not even worth asking i'm sure you already know the answer hell yeah i would feel use you don't even believe the reason he's giving behind the separate beds and you can't get please but he can that would not fly with me what you should do is trying to work hard to get you first then when you got yours get up or push him off and tell him to go handle trying figure out how to get his.
2007-05-27 17:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by nightryder28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say try that liquid that came out that's supposed to stop snoring. Then tell him you're trying it and see if he'll share a bed with you then. If not say "see ya". See if you can find somewhere else to live in case it doesn't work out.
2007-05-27 22:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by butterflies1992 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would feel used and I agree with all of the replyers. I would tell him about it or i would continue to have sex but dont please him. play games with him. dont leave him cuz thats something that can be worked out. if yall just stop havin sex ,then he is going to go to somebody thats gonna give him some and thats not a good thing
2007-05-27 18:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, staying because of children is a very bad idea. I think if I were in your shoes I would have bounced long ago. You can have your kids and find a man who will treat you much better.
2007-05-27 18:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt give him any for free anymore. Make him work for it. Tell him you HAVE to be pleased before you can go any further... have you asked him if there is a problem? Maybe he is having "some issues" that he doesn't feel comfy talking about.
2007-05-27 18:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Nothing but the truth...!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋