how to influence ppl to agree to what i say?

Answer 1

starting a religion seems to work.... but don't know if I'd want the bad karma associated with it.

Answer 2

It is wrong to influence people to agree with you.

Unless it is a short-term solution, using influence can be an old fashion way of forcing an allegiance from people. You have to set examples before people will agree with you no matter what has been the suggestion. Beside integrity, treat the people with frankness and understanding, less the aloofness that stand you apart from the common people. The people will agree with you in the end.

Answer 3

There are a few ways:
1. Argument and reason. Adhere to rational methods of thought. This seems obvious, but it really isn't... Few people are rational, and even fewer know that. Weakness: It only works for other people who are rational.
2. Start from *their* worldview, not yours. Worldviews of even rational people are products of their experience. You may have a different conclusion because you have different facts than another rational person. If this is the problem, you can only get agreement by displaying your idea within an understanding of their worldview.
3. Agree with them on a non-threatening item first, and then through careful digression trick them into seeing things your way. This does not work with the rational people. This is called rhetoric. It is a formal art in which slight distortions of logical fallacies can be used to get someone, through a chain of small steps, to completely agree that the world is flat. Most people do not catch where they made their mistake, and will happily continue to believe they have learned something new.
4. Appeal to self interest. People want to believe what it is in their interest to believe, and will resist believing what it is not in their interest to believe. This is the factor that makes CEO's believe they are actually worth their compensation packages when they bankrupt a pension fund and reorganize a company, and also the one which allows children to think that parents are evil because they do not serve ice cream for dinner.

Answer 4

Well there is nothing wrong with wanting to have influence with people, especially people you care about. But you have to keep in mind, are you looking for the truth on the subject that is actually listening to see if they are right, or are you trying to get them to agree with you? Search first to understand their position completely before trying to get them to understand yours. Would you trust a doctor that just prescribed medicine without diagnosing you? There is an art in empathic listening. In other words, I wouldn't assume that you are right on the issue, try searching for information , rather than confirmation.

Answer 5

first of all, you should start for changing the question. You can't force people to think the same as you. But if you want to show that you have a good point, you have to speak clearly, have a valid foundation, and no hesitations

Answer 6

You could start by not calling us ppl... I am persuaded by those that speak well. I am never impressed by someone who uses shorthand, computer talk, slang, ebonics or instant messaging spelling. I believe someone who takes the time to express their thoughts clearly has something to offer and those that are too lazy to do this probably don't.

Answer 7

Most people are self serving and subconsciously evaluate things based on "What's in it for me?". If you are trying to influence people to a specific action or belief, you need to show them how that action or belief will benefit them.

Answer 8

just you have to be open minded ..

Listen well .. and complement the good things about them ..

and just listen well ..

The 99 % of people will agree to your own person as a very good conversationalist ..

That is the first way to gain people ..

have a great day ..
Good luck ..
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Answer 9

use words in fancy ways so they dont understand them then say i feel happy we could have an intelecial conversation dont u agree to what i am proposeing
and if they say no they feel bad lol

Answer 10

Pointing a gun at them usually works.
Other then that, i would recommend well though-out arguments that are grounded in something a person already believes.

Answer 11

Direct path is not always the path that will work for you. Myself, I love to talk about politics and love to share my view. People in America just hate talking about them because they get sooooo Heated on subjects. So, instead of sharing my thoughts I started to just try and get people to talk about their view. People love to talk, and soon I learned to listen to get them to talk. In return it allowed me to talk about the subject. Soon after I was able to share my view. Being that I listen and did not share my view off the start.